Easy Ways to Attract Good Men After Divorce

Easy Ways to Attract Good Men After Divorce

For those looking to find love again after a divorce, there are tips that can help you succeed
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Questions About Dating After Divorce Are Common. I just received an email from Sandra, one of my students, and it motivated me to write this post because I think Sandra’s question is a question lots of divorced women have when they start dating after divorce.

Sandra is a 47 year old divorced woman that wanted to start dating and felt like she didn’t know how to get started. She had been on a few dates but none of them really lead in the direction that she wanted to go, namely meeting a man that was serious about a long term relationship. It seemed that she was only meeting players and guys that were into head games.

The first step in the dating coaching session with Sandra was working on her attitude.

You got it, attitude comes first. Are you a single woman that is confident about yourself and clear on what you want? If not, it will show. Now I’m not talking about some ego centered false bravado.

To attract the good guys, you need to connect first with the core of who you are before you will ever connect with Mr. Right. It’s an inside out process.

Men who are players are experts at detecting a lack of self esteem or neediness in a woman. They know what buttons to push to get what they want…. Which is usually a roll in the sack and nothing more.

These guys know how to read your body language like a best seller and wrap you around his little finger. When you are around a man you are attracted to notice your posture, do you make good eye contact? Are you comfortable in your own skin? If not, you need to make it a priority to start to develop feelings of self confidence about yourself.

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So, which single woman are you?

  • The confident woman makes eye contact and doesn’t avoid it.
  • She is comfortable about herself, she is ok being seen.
  • She has playful mysterious side to her.
  • She takes pride in the way she puts herself together and feels good about herself.
  • She expects a man to respond positively to her and commands respect without being demanding.
  • She doesn’t interrogate a man on the first date. She lets him talk and reveal himself in a very strategic, non-threatening way.
  • She knows how to engage him and keep the conversation flowing.
  • She is relaxed and isn’t in a hurry to Mr. Right.
  • She knows how to keep her emotions in check and is aware of noticing any red flags.

Her self confidence and attitude is paving the way for her to meet lots of quality men and will know with out a doubt when the man of her dreams appears.

So the first step when women after divorce wanting to attract good men, is to work on your attitude and develop your confidence and self esteem.

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Why You Should Stop Chasing Him

You deserve better.
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They say “the thrill of the chase" makes someone more enticing. There's just something about wanting something you can't have that drives you crazy (in a good way). There is never a dull moment. Pursuing him is a challenge. Nothing comes easily. What's the fun in that anyway?

I'm going to tell you this: stop chasing him. Stop forgiving him when he forgets to answer your text messages and phone calls. Stop being the one to always make plans. Stop letting him bail on you. Stop waiting around for him. Stop being lied to. Stop making excuses when he doesn't make time for you. There is a difference between someone who is “hard to get" and a flat out jerk who doesn't give you the time of day. Stop letting him use you.

You deserve to be with someone who makes you fall asleep every night in the middle of texting him because neither of you want the conversation to end. You deserve someone who plans dates for the two of you. You deserve someone who asks you to hang out before midnight. You deserve someone who wants to spend time with you just as much as you do with them. You deserve someone who insists on paying for your ice cream. You deserve someone who won't deceive you. You deserve someone who is straightforward. You deserve attention. You deserve affection. You deserve a partnership that is mutual, not one-sided. You deserve to be chased.

You are better than 3 a.m. “Hey" texts. You are better than a night spent watching a movie just to fool around. You are better than trying to decode his vague messages. You are better than his shadiness. You are better than mind games. You are better than being ignored.

If you have to chase him, he's not worth it. Don't settle for someone who makes you beg for his attention. If he is genuinely interested in getting to know you, he will put in the effort. A relationship where your feelings are reciprocated is far more rewarding than one where you constantly feel like you have to drag him along.

Change your mentality. Become more independent. Be confident, be bold. Find happiness in being alone. Don't waste your time pathetically chasing after someone who doesn't feel the same, but doesn't have the heart or the courage to tell you so. Your self-confidence and positivity will make you radiant, and eventually, you will attract the kind of guy who is mature enough to not mess with your head.

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Newsflash! It's Time For Everybody To Love Everybody

Come on, people, get it together.

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I, personally, think it's time for everybody to just start loving each other. Now listen, this doesn't mean you need to actually love everyone, but at least accept them. Acceptance is the closest thing we are gonna get to loving each other.

Let me tell you a little something: politics at the moment are very messy. No matter which side it is, it's messy. There is no denying that. If you try to deny that, then good for you, you're not helping anybody. If you really want some change, you need to start being the bigger person. Change isn't about who can yell about something louder or who has the "better" argument, it's about being respectful.

Just because someone has an opposing view does not mean you need to yell at them. Does yelling solve anything ever? Maybe temporarily, like for 2 minutes, but that's about as long as you're gonna get. There's absolutely no need to indirectly say something about certain individuals on social media. Yes, there is freedom of speech, but everybody should keep in mind why they have that right and why they still have it.

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What I'm trying to get at here is that in order to love each other, we really need to accept all our differences. If we really want change we need to go right to the sources, not just yell at each other from across the street. If everyone learned to accept each other, life would be a whole lot easier. Is this ever going to happen? Of course not. This is the solution though, whether you think so or not.

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