Last week, TLC finally came to the long-awaited decision to axe their hit series, "19 Kids & Counting," which documented the lives of the unusually-sized Duggar family. The cancellation came about after news that Josh Duggar, the family's oldest son, had inappropriately touched his sisters as a young teen. Reactions to the cancellation have ranged from ecstatic to enraged, but that's not the most surprising part. No, most surprising is the moral equivalency, with fans comparing Duggar's actions with that of Lena Dunham.

For those who might not know, "Girls" star Dunham released a memoir last year, detailing the events of her childhood and college years. In it, she admits to some morally dubious behavior, most of which involved her little sister Grace. In a disturbingly nonchalant manner, Lena discusses opening her infant sister's vagina, masturbating in bed with her, and bribing her with candy in exchange for kisses on the mouth. By her own admission, some of this behavior continued until Lena was seventeen and her sister eleven.

Rather than hold Dunham and Duggar responsible for the harm committed against their siblings, I've more often seen people condemn one in an effort to prop up the other. Defenders of Duggar have argued that Dunham's career was relatively unscathed after the release of her memoir, and thus the Duggar scandal should be similarly swept under the rug. Meanwhile, defenders of Dunham have argued that what Duggar did was worse, as if that somehow makes her actions acceptable. Unfortunately, sides seem to be predominantly be formed based on the political and religious affiliations of Dunham and Duggar, but that's another matter entirely.

What bothers me is the fact that no one seems to seems to be holding them both accountable.

Have people become so blind to their own biases that they can't hold someone they might like and agree with accountable? Yes, both Dunham and Duggar were kids themselves when they engaged in the behavior, and yes, their sisters have since forgiven the behavior, but that doesn't negate them of responsibility. It doesn't matter if they were pubescent and curious about their sexuality, an excuse which both have used to try and downplay their actions. They were old enough to know better – they had to know their advances were unwanted if they resorted to lies and bribes – but it seems that wasn't enough to stop them. Their siblings were young children who could not and did not willfully consent to the inappropriate behavior inflicted upon them, and yet they were treated as sex objects. I'm no expert on the subject, nor do I pretend to be, but I know wrong when I see it. And what Dunham and Duggar did was more than wrong, it was sexual abuse. It's not to be excused, and it's most certainly not to be downplayed for the sake of an agenda.

So rather than use one to diminish the wrongs of the other, let's acknowledge the hurt they inflicted, and be aware of the often unspoken travesty that is familial abuse.