A Warning To Teenagers

A Warning To Teenagers

It's OK to be young
"It's pointless to be shy. You must know what you want and you must say it." Emma Jacklin, "The Turning Point."

You're young. And because of that beautiful truth, you're incredibly stupid. Maybe not in terms of book smarts, or even street smarts, but when it comes to self-awareness and identification, you're just plain dumb. It doesn't take long to learn, to mature, to grow those proverbial wings, but you'll regret that you didn't do it sooner, just like the rest of us. Just like your older siblings, parents, neighbors, teachers, just like me. Oh well, youth's folly.

And it's not just you. It's your friends, your classmates, everybody you strive to maintain appearances in front of on a daily basis -- the people you're terrified will ostracize you if you make the slightest social misstep. You're all just a bunch of hormonal monsters fumbling around in the dark praying you don't draw attention to yourself, good or bad. You constantly have to be "on," which in your teenage years means one thing: apathy. To show excitement or interest, fear or apprehension, any emotion tinged with passiveness is frowned upon by your friends. You're expected to be in this constant state of mild existential anguish, to be resentful towards life itself.

As Tumblr and Twitter will invariably prove, the current trend in teenage behavior is this contradictory and distinct presence of both disinterest and anxiety. Sleep and isolation and being misunderstood are glorifiedI concepts while emotional stability, and even contentment, are derided. It's become the norm to constantly mention about how you're on the verge of a breakdown. It shouldn't be that way.

I'm not saying that you're incapable of these feelings because of your youth; I'm saying that you should do everything in your power to not harbor these feelings because they will come naturally, in due time. It's a part of maturity, something that every generation seems to be longing for at an increasingly younger age. Listlessness and sexts and Smirnov Ice may make you seem mature to your friends, but you're sacrificing these last, precious, fleeting moments of your childhood in an effort to impress those other little dullards. Trust me when I say that you'll have time enough to be disappointed by people, emotionally and sexually, once you've graduated high school.

Take this time to find what makes you happiest, what you're most passionate about. You'll never learn to love, improve upon, or even know yourself by clinging to this group mentality, this forced sangfroid. Let your little differences speak for themselves and set you apart from your 20 friends all named Zach (or Zack, or Zac, or Zak, or Zakk) and Katelyn (or Caitlyn, or Kaitlin, or Cate Lynn).

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.


Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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13 Quotes For All Of Us Empowered Female-Identifying People Out There

For the days when you need to be reminded that you are really doing the dang thing and doing it well.


For the days when you need to be reminded that you are really doing the dang thing and doing it well.

1. Do you really need someone else's permission, acceptance, wink, or nod, or are you ready to give these to yourself? -The Universe

I get notes from the Universe everyday and all of them are so amazing and inspiring. There might be a few of them on this list. You can sign up for your own notes from the universe here.

2. The princess saves herself in this one. -Amanda Lovelace

The quote is based off a book called The Princess Saves Herself In This One, which is a collection of poetry about resilience, you can get the book here.

3. I'm made of more than you think. -Snow White, Mirror, Mirror

4. Other people's perception of you ain't none of your business. -Lisa Nichols


5. Do you realize how many events and choices that had to occur since the birth of the universe leading to the making of just exactly the way you are? -Mrs. Which, A Wrinkle In Time

I love this because it really hits home how so many right and wrong decisions led to the creation of you and how you should appreciate the good and the bad because without either of them you wouldn't be exactly who you were supposed to be.

6. You can't stop what's done to you. You can only survive it. -Rachel, Georgia Rule 

This brings up an important theme of my life that I'm still trying to figure out. The only thing you can control in your life is how you react to what happens to you.

7. Don't let anyone ever make you feel like you don't deserve what you want. -Patrick Verona, 10 Things I Hate About You

8. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. -Queen Clarisse, The Princess Diaries

9. No trifling of the past, no matter how great, can tarnish the brilliance of eternity. -The Universe

10. People who are insignificant to your future shouldn't have an impact on your present.

Someone once told me this, and although I can't remember the person, this quote has always stuck with me.

11. Talented, brilliant, incredible, amazing, show stopping, spectacular, never the same, totally unique, completely not ever been done before. -Lady Gaga

You know what... I think she was talking about you.

12. Tell yourself it's easy. Tell yourself often. Make it an affirmation. Eat, sleep, breathe it, and you life shall be transformed. -The Universe

13. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. -Mark Twain 

Go on then, be empowered and trust your instincts, you've got big things coming... I can tell.

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