A response to "Sorority Anti-Rape Idea"

A response to "Sorority Anti-Rape Idea"

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Greek Life across the country has recently been in the spotlight for several alleged cases of sexual assault linked to fraternity houses and alcohol. Some of these cases have become very well-known among the media including the instance of gang rape at the University of Virginia which resulted in the probation of their Greek life.  

These cases have put our community and culture in a negative lighting and led the public to believe that Greeks are more focused on the party rather than the diploma. Several of these alleged events have led to investigations by officials of certain universities. The New York Times recently published an article, “Sorority Anti-Rape Idea: Drinking on Own Turf,” last Tuesday over the whether or not sororities should be allowed to have alcohol in their own houses to decrease the number of sexual assaults. Several women in the article claimed that they would feel safer and would be better able to monitor situations than they would at a fraternity house. While it may be true that drinking in the comfort of your own home would feel safer than at an unfamiliar fraternity house sexual assault can happen in any location.             

Drinking and parties are the same anywhere you go. It’s the people who lead to dangerous encounters like rape with or without alcohol. The article claims that many women have said they have felt unsafe being in unfamiliar surroundings where exits are unknown and doors are found to be locked. Throwing parties in a sorority house would be no different than a group of girls going to a fraternity house, honestly it may be worse. The ideals of sorority life do not revolve around party monitors, pledge driving and providing alcohol for boys. 

Sorority houses are a safe environment for girls to have a place to call home. If girls want to feel safer going to parties without feeling like they are going to be attacked then the only solution would be to better educate their members. The article mentions but does not really focus on any of the girls educating their members or how to react to these types of situations. If girls want to feel safe, then it is important for chapter leaders to talk about never leaving a girl behind, being familiar with surroundings and knowing limitations with alcohol consumption. 

Adding alcohol to a sorority chapter only increases the safety issues within the home, and encourages girls to drink even more because of the comfort with their surroundings. Most of the girls in the articles also discussed how they felt unsafe around the men in the fraternities. When alcohol is involved in these situations sometimes things can get out of control for both guys and girls. In these incidents usually men are blamed for instigating the assault. One girl in the article stated, “at parties it’s more of a hunting ground… sometimes it feel like the lions standing in the background and looking at the deer,” nowhere in the article does it mention girls being too intoxicated. 

While it is true in some cases that women are taken advantage of, these assaults are not a one sided deal. Girls have sometimes have no respect for fraternity house rules by showing up already intoxicated, expecting to be taken care of by fraternity members and being left behind by other sisters. It takes respect, proper education and understanding from both sides to protect members of all chapters from sexual assault from happening.             

Sexual assault should not be an issue within Greek Life. In order to put a stop to alcohol related instances members of both IFC and PanHellenic need to educate members on how to avoid situations like the ones described above. The answer to this problem is not changing the location of the party, its changing how the people respond and think about these situations. 

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20 Fun Facts To Use When Introducing Yourself

As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!
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After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different." This encourages me to always follow my heart no matter what. I will never follow society's standards and norms because they do not define me. Chanel's saying definitely influences my character and lifestyle.

5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

Angelina Jolie is a knife thrower. Kendall Jenner can produce bird noises. Amanda Seyfried can crochet and knit. Is there anything special you can do? Some people have rare and unique talents, maybe you can think of some hidden talents of your own!

13. My guilty pleasure is...

I will say it a million times: don't be shy when introducing yourself to new people! I'll start by divulging my guilty pleasure: Youtube's family vlogging channel, "OKBaby"!

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14. Some activities on my bucket list are...


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15. Talk about your best friend...

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16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

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19. I volunteer at...

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20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...



What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

Finally, remember to be outgoing! Reveal that three-mile smile and open your arms to learning about others. Spread smiles, love, and happiness.

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I'm The Shy Girl Who Isn't Really That Shy

I'm not a shy girl, but I am a girl who likes to listen. I have my own ideas and I'll share them with you, just wait.

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I'm the shy girl who isn't really shy.

I was always seen as shy from the outside and by people who didn't really know me. But, when I told my dad I was shy, his response was "No, no you're not."

And when I get to know people, I often get a "wow, you're not actually shy at all."

They're right, I'm not really that shy, but sometimes I don't exactly feel comfortable showing my whole self to people I just met.

And as much as I wish I could always feel comfortable; as much as I wish didn't have to go over what I was going to say in a class discussion 100 times in my head before I (hopefully) had the courage to speak, I think that's just who I am and I wouldn't trade that for the world.

It's kind of hard to explain, but there are some people I instantly feel comfortable with. On the other hand, in some situations, it takes me a little longer to get comfortable. And that's okay.

You see, I'm not the type of person who gets a high off of validation or attention.

Sure, sometimes attention can be nice and validation can feel good, but I don't need it. I am content enough with myself to receive validation from myself. I am able to give myself all the attention I need.

I hate it when people say, "Oh why aren't you talking? You're so shy."

I'm not talking because I don't want to. I like to listen and you like to talk. That's okay, but we all have our own cup of tea.

Plus, you didn't even get to know me or give me the chance to talk, but now I feel absolutely squished.

Give me the respect to be myself at my own pace, as I'm giving you the respect to be yourself at your own pace. It's okay that our paces are different.

And if I feel comfortable around you — if I'm myself around you, consider yourself lucky. That's not something that necessarily comes easy for me; it's not easy to give myself to anyone. That's something I'm working on, but I don't necessarily think that's a bad thing.

I'm not a shy girl, but I am a girl who likes to listen. I have my own ideas, and I'll share them with you, just wait.

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