Some time ago, an article was posted titled "You May Have Worn The Prom Dress With Him, But I Get To Wear The Wedding Dress." I read this article, and I had several qualms with it. As some one who left a obsessive, controlling partner, there are so many red flags in this article.

I am no longer with the person I took to my senior prom, and I can honestly say that I dodged a bullet with that one. This guy was incredibly jealous about my past relationships. He made me delete pictures with my ex in it, even if it was a group photo. He was jealous of a guy I talked to my freshman year of high school. If any guy had occupied my attention before I met him, he automatically hated them. He would get jealous of my guy friends. He would get jealous of past boyfriends. He would get jealous if a guy's name popped up on my phone.

He wanted me to wear the wedding dress. He wanted a family, he wanted kids, but he didn't want me to go to college or be independent of him. He was jealous of anything that stole my attention. Even then, I knew he was not the man I would spend forever with.

Now, I am dating a man that doesn't care about my past relationships or who I went to prom with. There's not a jealous bone in his body, and he exudes confidence. He is what a grown adult should be. He's someone that I'd love to wear the wedding dress for. We have a relationship built on trust and respect, not on him trying to get back at my ex.

No rational adult cares about what happened in high school beyond funny stories and lessons learned there. I don't care about the girl that my boyfriend took to prom, because it doesn't matter at this stage in our lives. We're both over that point; we look back on it to learn from our mistakes, not to use it as ammunition to attack others.

Also, do not drag this girl that you probably don't even know. You don't know how she may have loved him back in the day. You don't know that she went to his games for the popularity boost. You don't know how she felt; you can't possibly know. You're jealous of the "high school stuff" that you didn't get to do, but does it not matter that you get to do things with him now? What could you possibly do in high school that steals the light from the present?

If the girl that he took to prom in high school bothers you, then maybe you should wait before you don that white dress. If her going to his games in high school makes you jealous, then please understand that your potential future with him is more important than any game ever will be. Maybe you should re-evaluate what those vows mean to you. If this is your way of trying to one-up the girl he dated in high school, then you are doing it for the wrong reason. Your future husband is more than a shiny ring.

This article reminds me of my ex. The guy that hated anyone that looked at me for more than three seconds. The guy that made me feel guilty for ever having spent time with anyone that wasn't him. Possessiveness and jealousy are not foundations for a lasting relationships. If this is how you feel before you are even married, how will this manifest itself months or years from now?

You are not setting a good precedent for your future.