Feminism Is Great And All, But I Don't Want To Be The Same As A Man

Feminism Is Great And All, But I Don't Want To Be The Same As A Man

Call me crazy, but I like being a woman.

I want to start off by saying that I don't think that there's anything wrong with the concept of feminism.

I totally believe that women were created to be as equally valuable as men. Me being a woman doesn't make me less valuable than a man. When we look at feminism from this perspective, it makes sense. Women should be paid an equal amount for putting in the same work as a man does. Women should have a lot the same job placement opportunities as men- that's fair.

The sad thing is that most people who claim to be feminists have a completely different concept of equality than what I just stated.

As I've studied the trends of our generation and the recent uprising of the feminist movement, I noticed that there's a bit of a paradox in their belief system. Many aren't fighting so that they'll be seen as equally valuable as men. They're fighting so that they can be seen as the same as a man.

These are also generally the same people who are complaining that chivalry is dead and that men don't treat women like they used to, but I thought that they didn't want to be treated differently? How could you expect a guy to pay for your meal or pull out your chair when you're begging him to see you as the same as himself.

I apologize if I seem offensive, but this is not the lifestyle that I want to support. As a mixed person living in the literal woods of south Mississippi, I've understood the concept of "diverse but equal" from a very young age. I was adopted by an all-white family. I do not want to be seen as white.

Instead, I understand that I'm equally as valuable as everyone else, and I celebrate my own race and culture. As women, we should do the same thing. Recognize that we are equal to man, but celebrate the differences that we have.

I'm happy to be a woman. As naturally independent as I feel that life has made me, I still like for my door to be held open. I like the fact that I am seen as someone meant to be protected by a man. Yes, I can be loud, assertive, and a little rough sometimes, but I'm proud that God made me to one day protect my husband in a way that only a woman could. Is it so wrong to be happy with being different than a man?

This is why I think that since our generation is so confused with themselves- their genders, races, the general concept of identity. We're so adamant about pushing self-love, but we tell women that they're worthless unless they can be seen as the same as a man. This may be against today's status quo, but I don't want to be seen in the same way men are.

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20 Things That Happen When A Jersey Person Leaves Jersey

Hoagies, pizza, and bagels will never be the same.

Ah, the "armpit of America." Whether you traveled far for college, moved away, or even just went on vacation--you know these things to be true about leaving New Jersey. It turns out to be quite a unique state, and leaving will definitely take some lifestyle adjustment.

1. You discover an accent you swore you never had.

Suddenly, people start calling you out on your pronunciation of "cawfee," "wooter," "begel," and a lot more words you totally thought you were saying normal.

2. Pork Roll will never exist again.

Say goodbye to the beautiful luxury that is pork roll, egg, and cheese on a bagel. In fact, say goodbye to high-quality breakfast sandwiches completely.

3. Dealing with people who use Papa Johns, Pizza Hut, or Dominos as their go-to pizza.

It's weird learning that a lot of the country considers chain pizza to be good pizza. You're forever wishing you could expose them to a real, local, family-style, Italian-owned pizza shop. It's also a super hard adjustment to not have a pizza place on every single block anymore.

4. You probably encounter people that are genuinely friendly.

Sure Jersey contains its fair share of friendly people, but as a whole, it's a huge difference from somewhere like the South. People will honestly, genuinely smile and converse with strangers, and it takes some time to not find it sketchy.

5. People drive way slower and calmer.

You start to become embarrassed by the road rage that has been implanted in your soul. You'll get cut off, flipped off, and honked at way less. In fact, no one even honks, almost ever.

6. You realize that not everyone lives an hour from the shore.

Being able to wake up and text your friends for a quick beach trip on your day off is a thing of the past. No one should have to live this way.

7. You almost speak a different language.

The lingo and slang used in the Jersey area is... unique. It's totally normal until you leave, but then you find yourself receiving funny looks for your jargon and way fewer people relating to your humor. People don't say "jawn" in place of every noun.

8. Hoagies are never the same.

Or as others would say, "subs." There is nothing even close in comparison.

9. Needing Wawa more than life, and there's no one to relate.

When you complain to your friends about missing Wawa, they have no reaction. Their only response is to ask what it is, but there's no rightful explanation that can capture why it is so much better than just some convenient store.

10. You have to learn to pump gas. Eventually.

After a long period of avoidance and reluctance, I can now pump gas. The days of pulling up, rolling down your window, handing over your card and yelling "Fill it up regular please!" are over. When it's raining or cold, you miss this the most.

11. Your average pace of walking is suddenly very above-average.

Your friends will complain that you're walking too fast - when in reality - that was probably your slow-paced walk. Getting stuck behind painfully slow people is your utmost inconvenience.

12. You're asked about "Jersey Shore" way too often.

No, I don't know Snooki. No, our whole state and shore is not actually like that. We have 130 miles of some of the best beach towns in the country.

13. You can't casually mention NYC without people idealizing some magical, beautiful city.

Someone who has never been there has way too perfect an image of it. The place is quite average and dirty. Don't get me wrong, I love a good NYC day trip as much as the next person, but that's all it is to you... a day trip.

14. The lack of swearing is almost uncomfortable.

Jerseyans are known for their foul mouths, and going somewhere that isn't as aggressive as us is quite a culture adjustment.

15. No more jughandles.

No longer do you have to get in the far right lane to make a left turn.

16. You realize that other states are not nearly as extreme about their North/South division.

We literally consider them two different states. There are constant arguments and debates about it. The only thing that North and South Jersey can agree on is that a "Central Jersey" does not exist.

17. Most places also are not in a war over meat.

"Pork roll" or "taylor ham"... The most famous debate amongst North and South Jersey. It's quite a stupid argument, however, considering it is definitely pork roll.

18. You realize you were spoiled with fresh produce.

After all, it's called the "Garden State" for a reason. Your mouth may water just by thinking about some fresh Jersey corn.

19. You'll regret taking advantage of your proximity to everything.

Super short ride to the beach and a super short ride to Philly or NYC. Why was I ever bored?

20. Lastly, you realize how much pride you actually have in the "armpit of America," even if you claimed to dislike it before.

After all, there aren't many places with quite as much pride. You find yourself defending your state at all necessary moments, even if you never thought that would be the case.

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5 Basic Things Everyone Should Know Before They Start Drinking In College

Because if you're being honest with yourself, it's going to happen.


Let's, just for one second, be 100%, completely realistic.

For one second, and one second only, and then we can refer back to plausible deniability and stuff like that. You are going to have experiences with drinking in college. Even if you're not actually drinking, there is going to come a time in your college career where you will be somewhere where people are drinking and it is entirely possible that you won't know what to do. And that makes sense, and that is fine, but that's also why I'm here.

There are things you need to know, and I know some of it. (Not all of it, I'm not that great).

1. Drinking water is the only way to sober up

I'm sure that everyone in your life has a different idea on how to sober up, but literally, none of those actually work. The only way to actually sober up, according to science, is by drinking as much water as you do alcohol. Drinking black coffee and eating carbs and taking a cold shower might make you feel better, but you're not. Trust me. Just drink some water, and it will pass.

2. Different alcohols will have different effects on you

Pretty much every alcohol will get you drunk, at some point or another, but you'll probably feel different depending on what you drink. A wine drunk person is not the same as a beer drunk person or a vodka drunk person. There is only one way to figure out what all of your drunk selves are, but I don't suggest doing that. I actually suggest against doing that, if that means anything.

3. Only shotgun warm beer

At some point, you will probably wonder why frat boys shotgun beers so often and try it yourself, and you will probably do it wrong and regret it forever. If you're going to do it, do it right. Only shotgun warm beer because cold beer will give you a headache, and why would you want to give yourself another reason to get a headache when you're clearly going to get a hangover anyway.

Don't try to make a hole with your fingers, you will cut them and it will hurt and you will, again, regret it. Don't try to make the hole by using your tooth, because you will cut the inside of your mouth, and don't try to do it by smashing the can on your head until it opens. First of all, that makes a mess, second of all, it looks fucking stupid, third of all, you will hurt your head. Just use your keys like a normal person, and make the hole as big as you can to make it easier. Keep the beer at an angle while you chug it, and you'll be fine.

4. You'll probably have to watch your drink

I really hate that I have to tell people this because no one should have to worry about their drink but watch it! Some frats have resellers so don't trust them to make you a drink unless they are willing to drink it themselves, and your best bet is usually to just drink beer or whatever the frat guy is drinking because they don't want to be roofied either.

5. Don't be a dumbass

If you think the thing that you are doing is stupid, it probably is. To confirm, find your DSF(designated sober friend), and ask them if it's a good idea to do what you plan to do. When they say no, you will know that you were right, you are stupid.

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