Let me start by saying that I am also guilty for this obnoxious trend, but I have learned from my mistakes. I would also like to note that you should not drop everything to respond to a text. If you are busy or don't have time to respond then by all means take your time. I am referring to the times where you stare at your phone while doing nothing and purposely don't respond because you think you're so cool.
(One last disclaimer before we get rolling, I am not telling y'all to text back as soon as the text comes in. I don't want y'all to look desperate, but waiting more than an hour to respond just because you think it's cool is so obnoxious.)
1. It's freaking annoying
When a new relationship sparks, it's so exciting to see their name pop up on your phone. It is so annoying when you hear the *ding ding* and expect it to be your new bae when really it's your mom telling you to clean your room.
2. It can add unnecessary stress
As well as being annoying, it can stress your partner out. Maybe they are wondering if you are okay or if you even want to talk to them anymore. I know this sounds a little psycho, but I know you've thought these things before. I have no problem saying what I think so I can take this fall for my fellow peeps that too get stressed when waiting for a text.
3. It can make the other person over think
Does he like me? Is he annoyed? Did I say the wrong thing? Does he actually have a hidden girlfriend? These are things that can swarm around inside a girl's head when waiting hours on end for a text back. If you have to go do something just say you are busy. It's so easy.
4. You really aren't that cool
Listen here. You aren't that cool. Unless you are king of the world you really aren't worthy of leaving her on read. I don't know where the concept of making someone wait for a text came from, but I think it's stupid. If you think you are too cool to respond to a text in a timely manner, then I don't want to text you at all.
5. It's unnecessary
6. Delays the conversation
I can barely remember what I ate for breakfast much less what I was talking to some dude about. If you wait hours between each text there is nothing to talk about. Asking me what I major in at 8 am and if I have siblings at 12 pm is so lame. I can't keep up with what you are trying to talk about. People have more important things to focus on than what their next response should be.
7. Ruins the vibe
You can get a vibe of how things are flowing while texting. If the vibe is interrupted mid-conversation then it's gone. If I read your response 4 hours later I'm probably annoyed and don't want to discuss what you did that day anymore. Most people are impatient and after a while will lose interest in what you have to say.
8. Makes you look less appealing
I give an immediate 10 points to a guy that responds within 20-30 minutes. Like I said, you do not have to be tied to your phone responding at all times. Giving a heads up when you are about to be busy or can't respond is all I ask. When you purposely take a long time to respond my mind goes straight to "wow he's a douche". It's just annoying.
I hope all of this makes sense. I will say it one more time. DO NOT BE DESPERATE, but don't stare at a text for 4 hours on purpose while you play Fortnite. I have no idea why that is even cool. Be considerate and respond when is easiest for you. I know everyone is busy, but everyone also has some downtime...