My high school psychology teacher used to love telling us about how she met her husband. It was the first day of her freshman year of college. She fell in love with and married the boy who sat next to her in her first class. When that didn't happen to me I was incredibly disappointed and so eventually, the same way I spent my high school years longing and hoping to find my high school sweetheart, I spent my first year of college longing and hoping for my college sweetheart.

And yet, the other day I realized that excuse my french, thinking that way is stupid. I'm not in college to find a boyfriend, the love of my life, my number one soulmate. I'm in college to receive the best education I possibly can, to further my career, and to experience the best years of my life around people I love and care about. I'm not saying you can't have both. You can have a career and a boyfriend, you can go to school and have a social life. I just don't see a point in spending so much of my time and effort on boys who don't care about or respect me.

It's almost the Holidays, that time of year where I go back home and my aunts, uncles and grandma ask me where my boyfriend is, or in my particular case, why I don't have one. My default answers vary between "no one has caught my eye" and "I'm focusing on my studies right now." That usually holds them over for a bit.

But if I'm being honest here, I feel kind of upset after answering. It's partly because they always answer with something along the lines of "It's okay, you'll find a boyfriend soon enough," or "You can have both!". But also because it makes me feel like I'm not doing enough. I'm doing great in school, I'm involved, I'm studying something I love, working somewhere I love, I have the best friends in the world, the most amazing family, I'm healthy, I'm finally happy. So why are you telling me that something is missing?

I don't feel like anything is missing, per se. Sure, having a boyfriend would be fun; someone to hang out with and just enjoy life with, someone who loves you. That's great and all, but it's not a priority in my life right now, and I'm okay with that. I also don't think I'd "be a lot happier and more confident if I had a boyfriend" as someone once told me. I think a boyfriend right now would just add more stress, as all boys in my life have let me down. Not to mention, it's a time commitment I can't handle right now.

I know this may sound like I'm making excuses and trying to make myself feel better because I don't have a significant other in my life. Maybe that's exactly what I'm doing. Or maybe, just maybe, I'm trying to remind everyone that you shouldn't feel pressured to find the love of your life so young. I have my whole life ahead of me, so may more happy days. I have thousands of people yet to meet, places to visit, experiences to revel in.

God, the Universe, whatever you believe in, has a plan for you. Just let things happen, work hard, focus on what's really important and be patient.