Why you need a new way to think about rejection

Why You Shouldn't Take Rejection With A "Grain Of Salt"

An introduction to the rejection mantra that will save your life.


The whole idea and notion of rejection is repulsive. We don't want to hear "no" or any other soften version of it. Many people say to "take it with a grain of salt" or "accept it and move on," but that's not the way to interpret rejection in order to motivate yourself to be better and stronger in the future.

Everything happens for a reason, and so does rejection. During college app season in high school, I kept repeating a mantra, "I'll get in where I deserve." (In broader terms, adopt the motto, "I will get what I deserve.") This motto helped me deal with my rejection softly and be mindful of the true circumstances. The idea of "what you deserve" is essential. Take college applications as an example for this article. Your GPA, your SAT score--everything you do goes toward your acceptance and if you get rejected then what?

You have to realize that someone else worked harder than you. Someone else was smarter than you. Someone else persevered with far rough circumstances than your own. When you procrastinated, they didn't. When you were sleeping, they weren't.

This notion definitely sounds tough to accept, but it will help you understand where you went wrong and where others passed you. You start to accept your faults, your lack of motivation, your work ethic, and start to focus your energy towards becoming a better person because next time instead of getting rejected, you want to be accepted.

Spend your time counting your blessings and understanding your accomplishments. Where did I go wrong? Where could I have worked harder? When you get rejected, you don't want to torture yourself your entire life by thinking, "what IF I had done this" or "what IF I had just done that." Leave no room for "if's" because tomorrow when you get rejected, you don't want the question to be, "what if I had just worked harder?" You reap what you sow.

Those who might argue about luck--it's true luck plays a role. However, luck only plays a role when you have someone of equivalency or others who have less equivalency than yourself. Don't leave room for a very minimal chance when YOU could have been the person who worked harder and not the person who sits with the rejection email and letter in their hands, asking fifteen million "if" questions.

Your life will depend on how you change yourself and become better--that includes how you handle rejections and move forward. Don't accept it and move on. Improve and move on. Work harder and move on. Work smarter and move on. Empower yourself and those around you and soon you will get what you deserve.

(But if you get rejected by your significant other, TAKE IT WITH A GRAIN OF SALT. My above advice does not apply in the following scenario!)

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.

Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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It's Time To Take More 'Me Time'

Did you ever stop and think about how important "me time" is?


I know it's not everyone's first priority to think about just hanging out by themselves for a day, but why isn't it? Self-care is so important and some people don't do enough of it. Here are some way you can get some me time in, while still having a productive day.

Me time doesn't just mean relaxing

Yes, sometimes we all need a break, maybe it's just taking a long shower, laying in bed for an extra hour, or treating yourself to a yummy dessert. But, having me time doesn't necessarily mean you can't be productive. Have yourself a day and learn to enjoy your own company. Being around family and friends is certainly nice, but sometimes taking some time to yourself and collecting your own thoughts is good for your health.

It's okay to say no

No thanks. It's something that some people don't realize that it's okay to say no, just let them know beforehand. Such a cleshay, but it's not going to change anything if you say no to hanging out with your friends for one night. Take a night off and put on a movie or your favorite tv show and chill in bed with some of your favorite snacks.

Schedule it

We schedule classes and dentist appointments in our daily lives, but why don't we schedule me time? Sometimes just telling yourself that you're going to give yourself 20 minutes before your next task gives you a time dedicated to relax and collect your thoughts. It may seem funny to think about, but this is how you will be able to fully remind yourself, and hold yourself accountable, to giving yourself some alone time.

Treat yourself

Do it. Buy it. Now. Second guessing is first nature, but who needs a second opinion when your gut is telling you one thing? Once in awhile it's good to get yourself a sweet dessert or the new pair or shoes you've been eyeing.


Journaling is something that I spent a lot of time doing in High School, but once I entered College I never really had the time or motivation to do any reflecting. Reflecting on your life doesn't even mean writing it down in documentation, but even just taking 5 minutes before you fall asleep, let your thoughts sink in and evaluate certain things in your life you want to change, and cherish the moments that you will think about for the rest of your life.

Never feel guilty for taking time to yourself. Others will understand, but in the end, they're not you! Remember that taking me time is important for your overall health and encourage everyone around you to do it. Keep in mind that carving out some time for yourself is vital for the long run. Laugh and smile more.

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