Stop Holding Yourself Back

Stop Holding Yourself Back

Hey, it's me, the little nudge you needed.

As long as I can remember, I’ve been a cheerleader. Well, not an actual cheerleader, but theoretically. I have spent the past 20 years of my life celebrating other’s accomplishments. Applauding those of my friends who have gone out of their comfort zone to apply for middle school SGA, accepting an internship from their dream job, or even arranging a philanthropy event for their organization on campus. But this year, I’ve decided to hop off of the sidelines and throw myself into the middle of the action. This year is my year of continuously applying for things and really challenging myself, and here are 5 reasons why you should do the same.

1. Why not?

Why hold yourself back when you could advance further in school, work, or anything else you’re passionate about? You’ve got this! As Shia LaBeouf loves to aggressively say, “JUST DO IT!”

2. You’re so unique

Yes, someone else may be better at something than you, but that doesn’t mean they will always win. Your talents and the ideas you can bring to the table are something no one else can copy. Use your irreplaceable qualities to stand out from the rest and go that extra mile.

3. The worst they can say is no

Have you ever heard of someone receiving an email saying, “hey sorry, nice try but you suck?” Didn’t think so. If anything, people will appreciate the effort in applying and keep you in the back of their mind for the next time an opportunity presents itself.

4. Connections will be made everywhere you go

As you socialize and continue your attempt to network, you’re constantly interacting with others. Whether you are relating to others about your nerves for your interview or sharing ideas you hope to implement for a future event, you will connect with people who share your passions. There is nothing better than being around others who have the same ambitions as you.

5. You will never regret it

In the past week, I’ve stepped directly out of my comfy little box and I haven’t looked back. Was I afraid? Absolutely. Did I think I may not be chosen to showcase my talents? Duh. But what I have learned is that I should’ve had this mindset years ago and I can’t wait to continue challenging myself for the rest of my days. I may not be a natural born leader, but I’m ready to learn those skills from those who inspire me daily.

Cover Image Credit: Selby Proctor

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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