Don't Wait Until The New Year To Make Those Positive Life Changes

Don't Wait Until The New Year To Make Those Positive Life Changes

New year, same me, because I started working out WEEKS ago.

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Ah yes, the decades-old New Year's resolution. Somehow, the turning of the year has become an excuse for everyone to attempt to change their lives in major ways, as if they couldn't do it any other day of the year.

First, let me preface this by saying resolutions are silly, yet I make one every year, as everyone else does. The new year brings an extra wave of motivation to better ourselves. Most resolutions are something like eating better, drinking more water, or going to the gym. People take New Year's as the time to figure their lives out and decide on what they need to improve.

But of course, everyone usually gives up within the first month or so of the new year. That "new year, new me" desire to change for the better fades once we bore of salads and pilates classes. Being better is hard when we've been fine the way we are for this long. I'll just try again next year!

That's why this year, I'm making my resolution... to change absolutely nothing.

That might seem lazy and stupid, but hear me out.

What makes you think that you need to make a major change right now? Probably nothing, except the tradition of making a resolution. You've probably drifted through 2018 with the same habits and lifestyle you've always had. Really, you only want to change so you can have a resolution. There's no change you can make to your life on New Year's that you couldn't make any other day, and it'll have the same life-changing effect that it would if you started New Year's Day versus any other day.

Resolutions are excuses. We tell ourselves it's fine to exist on nothing but pasta and cheese because our resolution is to start working out in 2019! We'll just wait until then to make any positive lifestyle changes.

I'm making my resolution to keep my life largely the same as it is right now. Because I'm happy, and because no resolution is going to make me eat better or work out more. The only thing that can make that happen is my own dedication.

We let go of our resolutions because "it was just a resolution, it's no big deal, no one really sticks with theirs." But when we wake up on an ordinary day and decide for ourselves that it's time to change, that's when change really happens. Our motivation needs to come from a place of inspiration and real desire to change, not from some silly promise we make to ourselves as the ball drops with full knowledge that we won't keep it up past January.

The tradition of making a resolution is cute and fun, and it's a part of the New Year's festivities. I just want everyone to remember that you don't have to wait for the countdown to the new year to decide to make a change for yourself. If you want to be healthier or happier, any old day is a great day to start.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

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You won’t see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won’t laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won’t go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They’ll miss you. They’ll cry.

You won’t fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won’t get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won’t be there to wipe away your mother’s tears when she finds out that you’re gone.

You won’t be able to hug the ones that love you while they’re waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won’t be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won’t find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won’t celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won’t turn another year older.

You will never see the places you’ve always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You’ll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it’s not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don’t let today be the end.

You don’t have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It’s not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I’m sure you’re no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won’t do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you’ll be fine.” Because when they aren’t, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

For help, call 1-800-273-TALK (8255).

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Stop And Enjoy Where You Are

Yesterday is done and tomorrow cannot be planned

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I work at a summer camp, I spend every single day of the summer interacting with young people. They talk about everything; jobs, dating, marriage, kids, houses, college. One day I was talking to one of my campers and she was telling me all about her future life. Who she wanted to marry, what she wanted to be and her kid's names. She told me all about what college was going to be like for her, and she even had the car she was going to drive planned out. I sat there in awe at the fact she knew all of this (I barely know what I want for dinner tonight let alone what I will be doing in 10+ years). And then after the awe wore off the sadness came over me.

Why do we so often want to rush the rest of our lives?

Why do kids especially think the future will be so much more exciting?

As I grew up I was guilty of it too. I wanted my life to start, I wanted to be done with the crap, I wanted to be grown - it seemed so much more fun than being told what to do and when to do it. But now that I am (kind of) grown, and seldom told what to do or when to do it, I wish I could go back.

But at the same time, I do not.

As I sit here now I have learned to become content on where I am, maybe it is partly because I am petrified of the future. Or maybe it is because going back would mean losing all freedom. But after realizing the past and future have happened and will happen, I have learned to live in the moment. The now is better than the 'has been' or 'will be'

I guess the point of everything is stop wishing for tomorrow, stop wishing Monday's were Friday's and stop wishing winter was summer. Stop wishing your life away and be where you are now with the incredible people surrounding you. Take that random bus to nowhere, take that picture (even if someone complains), and always take a look around and realize everything you have. Because your so desired tomorrow may not have it. You only have control of right now, at this moment - make this moment worth something.

"Remember then: there is only one time that is important - Now! It is the most important time because it is the only time when we have any power." - Leo Tolstoy

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