You Don't Need A New Year To Become A New You

You Don't Need A New Year To Become A New You

Motivation doesn't come from the calendar.

With New Year’s Eve just around the corner, resolutions are sure to follow. Pinky-promising yourself you’re going to drop those last five pounds, letting the entirety of Facebook know that you’re finally going to start your novel this year, and you and your friends hyping each other up about how this will finally be your year. We’ve all been there. Some of us will even be there in a few days.

The start of a New Year is a very exciting time, because with it comes the unknown. It’s a chance to finally be the person you want to be and make the changes you’ve always wanted to make. It’s a fresh start, and moreover, a reason to start fresh. I understand and can appreciate the excitement. I truly can. However, I personally do not partake. Sure, I’ll have some champagne, stay up well after midnight, and enjoy my New Year like everyone else, but I don’t make resolutions.

I am a firm believer in the power of the self and the idea that you do not need a new year to be better or to want better for yourself. I believe that people are always growing and changing and becoming better through each and every thing they experience. Learning is the name of the game, and I think people are constantly learning. Each day is a new opportunity to change yourself and make yourself better. Every day is a fresh start.

A new year is an excuse to turn yourself around, and for many, maybe the push they finally needed. However, motivation does not come from the calendar. Motivation is something that must come from within. Hence, why many people tend to fail when it comes to keeping their resolutions at first. Motivation stemming from somewhere besides yourself is not strong enough to elicit true change. You have to truly want to change. The drive has to come from an internal urge, not a social obligation born from tradition.

Furthermore, the custom of New Year’s resolutions doesn’t take into account how difficult it is to truly change. Especially if you’re making large lifestyle changes. Studies have shown that, on average, it takes over two months to form new habits. With the two-month finish line being somewhat daunting and more than a little distant, it’s easy to fall off the wagon, especially when you’re trying to change yourself completely, or undo deeply rooted habits.

New Year’s resolutions don’t allow any room for error. They appear to be just a final, all-encompassing goal, insinuating that reaching goals themselves is linear. Failure is not an option; it’s a requirement. No one that’s ever accomplished anything did it on the first try. It’s a matter of constant effort and yes, sometimes even starting over.

So why put yourself through it? Change starts one day at a time. And that change can start whenever you want. My goal for myself every day is to do better and be better for myself and by myself. And with that, I make sure to try new things every day and branch out and challenge myself all for the hope of a better me. By partaking in my own betterment every day, there’s a higher chance of success and even more so, I am constantly growing and becoming the person I want to be- everyday! It’s never too late to change yourself. And it’s never too early to start, either. So what are you waiting for?

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Noisy Neighbors?

4 Appropriate Methods to Get Your Peace Back

Noisy neighbors may be something that is removing the enjoyment from your home. Sometimes noise is just inevitable. You can choose to retaliate or you can take the high road. Here are some methods you can use to help quiet those noisy neighbors.

Talk Over Your Concerns

Sometimes people aren’t aware of how much noise they are making. Your neighbor might have a dog that barks incessantly. They may even be oblivious to this fact. You should always give people the benefit of the doubt. Don’t assume that they are making noise just to disturb you. Before confronting the issue, take a moment to calm yourself. You don’t want the conversation to escalate. This won’t solve the issue. Ask to speak to your neighbor. Try not to be confrontational. When you put people on the defensive, the conversation is rarely productive. Start out by expressing some of the things that you have noticed. Tell your neighbor how this has made you feel. Let them know that you would like their help with this situation. Come up with solutions together. Having this binding agreement can make future issues easier to resolve.

Offer Incentive for Quiet Time

People are generally more accepting of your point of view when you do something nice for them. Bake a plate of cookies or some other type of baked good. This way you can start an uncomfortable conversation on the right foot. You might be able to come to a compromise. Let them know that you would like to have quiet time during certain times of the day. This way everyone can get what they want out of the situation. There may be something going on that you were unaware of at your neighbor’s house. You may find that they were offended by noise that you were making. Be willing to see things from their perspective. Part of being a good neighbor is being able to compromise. Unless you are planning on moving, you will likely see this person every day. You don’t want continued tensions to make you uncomfortable in your own home.

Install a Good Neighbor Fence

A good fence may be the solution to your problem. Some types of fencing can help to reduce the amount of noise that filters into your yard. Consider using wholesale vinyl fencing to make your yard more private. There are a variety of styles available. Vinyl is relatively easy to install. You can put up the whole fence in just one weekend. Fencing can block the sightline of a constantly barking dog. You can enjoy your yard in peace without having to be wary of what the neighbor’s dog is doing. Having a fence also offers your kids a safe place to play. They are contained and you can watch them from the comfort of your home. You can relax in your yard and not be observed by prying eyes. Sometimes fences make the best neighbors. You can get your peace back at a reasonable price.

Utilize Ear Plugs

When all else fails, pull out the ear plugs. You can live in blissful ignorance of all the noise that your neighbors are making. Denial may be your only alternative. While some neighbors are considerate of others feelings, some don’t care. If this is the case, you have two options. Ignore the noise or make it into a bigger issue. Many people choose to report their neighbors for noise complaints. This may be a short term solution. Your neighbors may be resentful of the intrusion. This can lead to bigger issues with your neighbor. Be careful how you choose to handle this situation. Avoidance may be your safest choice when nothing else is working. Ear plugs can let you at least pretend that there isn’t an issue. Consider getting the other neighbors involved to deal with your troublesome neighbor.

Everyone has experienced noisy neighbors at some point. Try these techniques to help you keep the peace in the neighborhood.

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Sharing My Writing Publicly Changed The Way I View My Content, But I Grew Out Of My Comfort Zone

It certainly didn’t discourage me from writing any less.

I have been writing for the Odyssey for a little over two years now, and it’s safe to say I absolutely love it. Having the freedom and ability to write about whatever I want on a weekly basis not only improves my writing abilities but also encourages me to pay attention to what’s going on and stay attuned to the world.

Still, it’s not always fun and games. This past year, it was made known to me that every time I write an article, I have to ensure that it is shared on several social media platforms, one of which is Facebook. Initially, I didn’t find this to be much of a problem, that was until I wrote my article for the next week.

There’s something so freeing about being able to write whatever you want, and part of that stems from the fact that you get to choose topics that interest you. Additionally, part of what I loved was not just writing what I wanted, but when I wrote something that could prove to be controversial amongst some, I didn’t have to share it.

That all changed a few months back, and it greatly influenced how I thought about my articles moving forward.

I wish I could say that I don’t care whether people like my articles or if my content sparks heated discussion, but I do. When you manage any kind of social media content, whether it’s a blog or writing for a website ,you care about your viewership and how they receive your articles, and you should! Part of the reason why you do it in the first place is because this audience is so important to you, and you don’t want to let them down.

One of the greatest benefits about being a writer is that you have the opportunity to help, encourage, motivate, educate, and support other people. When you write a public article, you open up the possibility for people to read that article and resonate with it in some way. Whether it’s learning about a new sport or feeling supported about a person struggle, your aud ience views you as a confidant in as little as 500 words.

But what happens if you write something that not everyone will love? Does that mean you shouldn’t share it?

I spent a great deal of my time the first year writing for Odyssey sticking to anything I was interested in, and once I was encouraged to make my writing public, my topics changed. I paid more attention to what I was writing about and how it might be received by certain people. I cared more about touching upon the critical points and asking the question of what the big takeaway would be at the end.

When you choose to write publicly, you have to embrace the fact that not everyone will think your writing is advanced or profound, and that sometimes, people will disagree. Still, you cannot shy away from the topics that you feel are important or critical to analyze because words do have the ability to promote change and help people.

For those of you who are writers or are thinking about becoming writers for a public platform, my advice is this:

Do it. Do not shy away from it because you’re worried about the content that you are writing about or whether you’ll have 1,000 social engagements in minutes.

Instead, do it because you are passionate about it and because it allows you to instill passion in others.

Most importantly, remember that being “public” shouldn’t make you fearful of talking about the difficult topics. Rather, view the accessibility of your work as encouragement to proofread, edit, and hone ideas that you genuinely think people will appreciate.

Going “public” may have changed the way I view my content, but it certainly didn’t discourage me from writing any less.

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