Even now as I am sitting writing this article I know that some people reading will not agree with me and that's ok. I have been through a lot in the past couple of years and I have gained experiences. One of the most important things I have learned in my past love life is to not lose yourself to your partner.
Let me explain this a little further and give you some perspective of what I've gone through. I dated an individual and I was head over heels for him. We spent pretty much everyday together and looking back on it now, I say to myself what the hell was I thinking? It was such an unhealthy relationship that it got to the point where I was physically unhealthy. At the time I couldn't see anything wrong with the relationship.
I lost a lot of friends because of it. I wasn't myself and I was constantly unhappy and physically worn out. After I was dumped, and yes I don't mind saying that I was dumped, I kicked my ass into high gear. I started going to the gym and truly started thinking about what my goals were and who I wanted to be as a person.
Well, enough about me, here's my advice to anyone reading, don't lose yourself to your significant other. It's ok to be yourself and to have your activities and hobbies that you enjoy. If your significant other doesn't like the exact same things as you do, that's ok. You both need your own space from time to time, and guess what? That's perfectly fine. This doesn't mean that you never want to spend time with each other or you don't have the same feelings for each other, it just means that you can be an independent person.
Don't get me wrong, this isn't an article telling you to not have anyone in your life and that you don't need a man, etc. I will be the first one to admit that having that special someone in your life is great, but don't give up everything you love for just one person. Don't lose your friends to your significant other. Don't lose your passion to your significant other. Don't give up on your dreams and goals for your significant other. Most importantly, don't lose who you are to your significant other.