Everyone experiences death at some point in their lives. Imagine having to deal with people who don't respect boundaries and then having to deal with their judgment. That doesn't help the grieving process. Sometimes we have to live with regret because we experienced a death that was sudden. Imagine having to live with the guilt of not reaching out to that person enough even though you never knew that their death was imminent. If you knew that death was coming to a person you knew and you don't feel comfortable with them dying then there is nothing wrong with you. If you want to remember them as you knew them before the news then that is your business but don't expect people to agree with your decision.

When in grieving, one should be surrounded with love and understanding rather than judgment because they aren't grieving openly or grieving for "too long". Sometimes it takes people longer to heal their hearts than others but does the heart really ever heal? One just learns to deal with not having that person in their life. Whether it's a grandparent, sister, brother or close friend, no one ever gets over a death especially when that person left a mark on the heart of the person. When I lost my grandma, who was like my other mom, I grieved for months because that was part of my trips home that I really enjoyed. I have to live with the regret of not "seeing" her enough. I am not over her death but I've learned to live with it just like my mom and my aunts.

When I lost my friend to a heart attack, it came a shock to me because I had just seen her face to face just a few months prior. When she came to visit me and my then fiance it truly made me love her more. We helped her with her kids when walking around Walt Disney World and I inspired my husband into wanting kids. Her daughters will forever be in my heart because I don't want to learn what it's like to grow up without a mom. It hurts my heart that a heart attack had to take away a beautiful soul from this earth. There was some drama surrounding her death because people don't respect other people's grieving process.

We all need to respect other people's grieving process because we all heal differently. Grieving will never run smoothly because it's messy and you have to fall before you get back up again. It's sad when people start drama over something that everyone goes through and experiences differently. It's not something that should be taken lightly. Humans are emotional creatures and we love deeply. There are some survivors that pass away from Broken Heart Syndrome and that is no joke. That is why we need to be supportive of each other and love each other so that way we can mend the broken pieces together.