I Don’t Feel Like I Have A Hometown

I Don’t Feel Like I Have A Hometown

I want to call happiness my home.

I feel like I don’t have a “hometown.” It’s not sad — I feel connected to everywhere I've lived. I love many of the people I’ve met and from moving at the beginning of 6th grade to moving to college have shaped me to be the person I am today. I don’t feel a bond with just one place. I love Charleston, obviously! Living in downtown Charleston is really cute, exciting and new to me, so I’m happy here. The thing is, I really haven’t hated a single place I’ve laid my head.

From living in Elon, North Carolina to Frisco, Texas to Hampstead, North Carolina I’ve had experiences that made me the gal I am today. I’ve met my best friends, discovered my passions and realized that North Carolina isn’t that bad, I actually love NC. I went to private school all through elementary school with mostly the same 16 kids throughout the six years. There were only six girls in the class including me, so moving from small town North Carolina to everything’s bigger in Texas was a little of a shock. My middle school had a couple thousand kids and all of the sudden no one knew me and I was labeled as the new kid. In a way, I loved the attention of being new a large school because everyone wanted to get to know me or know where I was from. Moving around is cool in that way, you don't have a reputation so you can be whoever you want to be and by that, I mean leaving all the negativity in the past. I loved Frisco, Texas and I have always loved Texas in general since my childhood family trips to visit my Aunt Di and Uncle Wayne in the summers.

To my 6th grade self, moving back to my small town in North Carolina was the worst. I hated the thought of going back to a place where I knew everyone. It was good for me in the long run because I’ve always been one for change and a little over a year later I moved to Surf City, North Carolina and I went to the beach every day of that summer.

I went to Topsail High school all four years, which was the first time since elementary school that I had gone to the same school for more than two years with the same people since my elementary school days. People move for different reasons, but no matter the reason, moving around and meeting new people makes you grow in a different way than people who live in the same place their entire life. You are forced to be happy with yourself and put yourself out there. I haven’t kept up with everyone, but everyone impacted my life in some way and I'm who I am today because all the incredible people I've met. Who knows, maybe you'll get an Instagram direct message from a boy you went to middle school with and end up reconnecting. Thank you to my kindergarten class with Ms. Adams, much love to my 6th-grade chorus class with Ms. Rodriguez, thanks for all the memories, Topsail High School Drama, and I’m forever grateful for my new college BFFs for helping me through my first year at College of Charleston. I don’t feel like one town is my true hometown, but the little unique pieces from each place have made me, as someone pretty rockin' called me, the Southern beach town beauty I am today.

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18 things all college kids think during their first week home of summer break

Because it's so nice to be home, I think?


1. Ahhh, it's so nice to be home

Buckingham Palace ain't got nothing on this place

2. OMG my pups!! I missed you doggos so much

Just accept my love. Pls. Love me back, I've been gone for 8 months. I'm begging.

3. Wow this queen bed is so big

*cue sleeping in a starfish position*

4. Finally a bedroom to myself

Headphones? I don't know her.

5. But wait, it's kinda scary sleeping in a dark room alone again

"Hello? Are there any ghosts in here?"

6. Sooooooo, no more meal plan?

Are you sure the local Chick-Fil-A doesn't accept meal swipes?

7. Who am I supposed to annoy at 2am if my friends don't live down the hall anymore?

2:30 AM: "Mom? Dad? Wanna go get french fries with me? Maybe watch a movie?"


"Okay maybe tomorrow...Sorry for bothering you. Okay good talk!"

8. "Mom you're going to do my laundry now, right?"

I mean it's kinda your job isn't it?

No? Okay yes ma'am I will do my own laundry no problemo, aye aye captain!

9. Me and my friends are going to spend every day together

*Me talking to myself through the camera on Snapchat*:

"So we're approaching day four with zero human interaction. Pretty good work, but we could do better!"

10. Yes, final grades are in! Can't wait to see what I got this semester!

*Slowly closes computer screen*

11. Do I really have to ask my parents to leave the house?

*Doesn't Ask*:



Mom: "Oh honey you're an adult now, you don't have to ask! Come and go as you please!"

12. Chores? Yea no thank you.

They've been doing them without me for months. They're all set.

13. Wait, so forreal though.. do restaurants in town take my meal plan?

Bank Account: $5.93

*Whispers to worker* "I won't tell if you don't. Just swipe my school ID, see if it works."

14. Will my Juul set off the fire alarm in my bedroom?


*Rips Juul*

15. I kinda underestimated how weird it would be to hang out with people from my high school again.

"Oh no you haven't changed a bit Janice! Your baby is so cute lol."

*Awkwardly laughs*

16. Why do my old friends have new friends?

I don't like this, not one bit.

17. Can they tell that I'm not really listening to their stories about school?

"Yeah haha Delta Sigma Mu sounds sooooo dope Chad, that's ~wild~ that you had late nights three times a week lol!"

"Oh you snuck into the football stadium when the gates were unlocked?? That's crazy, you're crazy, school sounds... crazy!"

18. I'm bored. How long until I can go back to school?

Is it too late for a summer intersession?

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Introvert: a shy, reticent person
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