Don't Allow Yourself To Be Crippled By Comparison

Don't Allow Yourself To Be Crippled By Comparison

Each person's journey is their own, with struggles and victories alike, no two are the same.

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One of my biggest struggles in life has been balancing my anxiety and my fear. It was not until a couple of years ago that I discovered where the root of those inhibitors was grounded.

Over the years, I realized that most of my insecurities came from comparison. Almost everything that I did, I did because everyone else was doing it and I merely wanted to fit in. I also held back from doing things that I loved because I feared to be different from my peers. I found myself with a lack of confidence in my abilities and my talents. I had a fear of standing out. I had taken on a bad habit without even noticing it. My anxiety and fear came from a desire to be perfect and good all of the time. And to no surprise, I failed over and over again at this feat.

However, I learned something from those failures, and from my successes. From my failures, I learned that trying to be like everyone else and worrying about what everyone else was doing would get me nowhere. I refused to acknowledge the things that made me a unique individual. On the other hand, the times that I did not compare myself to others and rather just focused on the race that I was running, I got farther and I succeeded in my own way. In the end, I was successful because I had confidence in myself. I did not need the fact that I was like everyone else to validate me.

Comparisons are toxic. It causes you to be self-absorbed, it chips away at your self-esteem and makes you believe that everyone else is more worthy and capable than you are. Each person's journey is their own, with struggles and victories alike, no two are the same. Comparing your successes or failures to another person's is completely pointless and degrading of your own self-worth. Rather, appreciate others for what they are doing and acknowledge their differences.

So now, I challenge you and I encourage you, even though I know that it is hard, to not compare yourself to others. Focus on your race because you are fearfully and wonderfully made. You were given your talents and abilities for a reason, so use them for good!

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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Dreading This Day All About Love

Valentines day blues

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I have never enjoyed Valentine's Day.

Even if when I was in a relationship it was just an awkward day of "hey I love you, give me gifts and lets make out." But this year, I am just not feeling this thing at all. Since the relationship ended last June I have just been dreading the time when February came, because you know that on the 14th you are going to see all these love post and all us singles are like "welp this is just not my day.", and honestly you feel defeated. I personally asked other singles friends (like the three I have) if they wanted to come and watch Netflix with me and dread the day, but sadly they either had school or work. So here is my plan of getting though this day of love:

NETFLIX

Yes Netflix how else am I supposed to get through this day? Usually I have Greys Anatomy playing all the time but that has love in it, and I am not in the mood for that. My plan is to watch all the crime shows I can because watching TV crime series or documentary about serial killers just seems perfect for the 14th.

SLEEP

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Yes sleeping. I don't have anywhere I need to be why not catch up on some zzz's

CHOCOLATE

Yes I am going to eat my feelings with chocolate because why not? if I could I would get a giant slice of cake and live off that on the 14th but sadly I am stuck with the normal Heresy's chocolate and Reeses which will do their job.

CATS

me :)

This is my wonderful cat Kimber and she will be my partner in crime on the 14th. She will sleep, snuggle, cuddle, all day with me because I need that moral support of my fluffy cat.

BOOKS

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If I am able to fit reading a book into my schedule of everything listed above then reading will go into that open spot. I always loved reading but with school it is hard to find the time to read for enjoyment. so this day will be the perfect day.


This is my plan for the 14th of February and hopefully this will help me get though this dreadful day. And if you are also single try this out :)

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