Don't Call Me Princess

Don't Call Me Princess

If anything, I'm a queen.

Going through life you'll meet many people in all sorts of situations. You meet your best friend in a classroom, your parents for dinner, your husband for a cup of coffee before meeting your boss in a meeting. You meet these people at different times in your life. Not all of these meetings are determined by you, some just sort of happen. You have different words that you call these people when you see them; their name, a nickname, something that explains their personality, group them together, refer to them with generalized terms like "guys", "parents", "teammates", and so on.

There are other things people will call one another, words like "honey", "hun", "sweetie", "cutie", "babe", "princess", but all these terms meant to be endearing are only taken this way in certain situations. Being called these things by your mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, aunt, uncle, significant other, can be accepted in certain situations. Really what it comes down to is that context/situation it`s being used in. If you're going to tell someone they're beautiful, say it sincerely, don`t catcall, and don`t say it with that extra little sly look that makes it seem like there`s an "and ______." statement running through your mind. Just be genuine.

I don`t want to randomly be called "princess" by an older man with an off-putting smile whom I've never met before. It makes me uncomfortable and anxious, and all I want to do is get away or get them away as soon as possible, but sometimes you have to put up with it and pretend nothing is wrong. You just have to smile back and act like it`s fine. I don't want to be called "hun" by a friend, an acquaintance, and especially not by someone younger than I am. It`s a little bit insulting. When I'm using the word it's either to show that I am trying to console them or trying to lighten the mood and tell them they may have said something inaccurate and I am gently correcting them. "Hun" is something a mother would call her daughter or what a grandmother would call her granddaughter.

Part of the reason for this is that there's this idea people have that women can be called these things and it's okay. Not all of us are "okay" with it. I would rather not be belittled with these "cute" words. Honestly, if I never hear someone call me "babe" in order to get my attention I would be more than happy. Just use my name, a nickname, something that refers to me as me rather than call me something that makes me feel like all I am is an object for your viewing pleasure. Some people like these words and that's fine. I'm not saying that it's wrong or right, just that my personal preference is different than what someone else's may be.

I am not a princess. I don`' live in a tower and I`m not interested in sitting on the sidelines. I want to go run around and get a little dirty. Sure, I'm not into worms, bugs, creepy crawly/slithery things, but that doesn't mean I wasn't at some point. I used to be the first one out there playing in the mud with my sister, picking up worms, catching frogs, and capturing turtles to show my grandma. I understand the appeal, I still like to go watch the turtles disappear among the lily pads, but now I do other things. I go explore the woods, walk for miles along the lake shore, go for a bike ride, visit an apple orchard, kayak, take pictures, go for a midnight drive. I'm not a porcelain doll. I won't break if I get hit with a ball, and if I fall over, I get back up, brush off a little dust, and worry about the grass stains later.

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17 Signs You Grew Up Irish

Irish and proud!

With a name like Shannon Elizabeth Ryan many people right away sarcastically ask the question "you're not Irish are you?" I always laugh and jokingly say nope not at all. I'm extremely proud of my Irish heritage, but what does it mean to be Irish?

Here are 17 signs you grew up Irish:

1. You have a distinct Irish name: first or last

Shannon, Elizabeth, Michael, Patrick, Sean, James, Ryan, Riley, Mahony, Murphy. Extra points if your last name begins with O', Mac or Mc.

2. You have been called a "potato head" or towhead as a child

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"What a bunch or potato heads!" Meaning you were really Irish or really blonde or both.

3. You were raised Catholic

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Catholic school, mass every Sunday. Oh and you were most likely an alter server or in the choir and can say the mass forward and backwards.

4. You have a love for potatoes of any kind.

Also, you may have read this book about a potato as a child.

5. You've been told, "Oh, you're Irish, you can hold your drinks."


I mean it's in your blood, right?

6. Funeral, wedding, birthday you really can't tell the difference

Wedding? Get the whiskey. Oh, you said funeral?

... get the whiskey.

7. You know old Irish Songs and sing along with every note

"The Streets of New York," "Black Velvet Band," "Wild Rover," "Molly Malone," "Galway Girl," "Danny Boy," tell me ma all songs I remember being singing along with as a kid.

8. Your favorite holiday is St. Patrick's Day and you go all out

A day to show the world that there are only two types of people in the world: those who are Irish and those that wish they were.

9. You own a Celtic cross, Claddagh ring or any Irish knot jewelry and wear it often

You were most likely given that Celtic cross when you were born and got one for your First Holy Communion. The Claddagh was given by someone who loves you and Irish knots you can never go wrong with.

10. Two words: "soda" and "bread"

Some don't know that the cross made on the top of bread is to keep the devil away and protect the house.

11. You have a HUGE family and the parties and reunions that go along with it are just as big

My family is enormous and this is only half of it and I still don't know everyone.

12. There is no such thing as tanning

Unless you ware one of the blessed ones who do tan I'm extremely jealous. For the rest of us, we have two options pale or red there is no in-between.

13. You may not have the cleanest mouth or quietest voice

But you would never dare say a bad word in front of someone older than you. As for an indoor voice, it's non-existent.

14. You can successfully pull off an “Irish Exit" and then have to explain to your friends the next day what exactly that is when they ask where you went

Basically means you leave the party without anyone knowing.

15. At one point in your life, you've said, “Jesus, Mary, and Joseph" if something went wrong

I heard this a lot growing up and I catch myself saying it every now and again.

16. The only college football team you root for is Notre Dame

I mean is there any other, Let's Go Fighting Irish!

17. Lastly, you are extremely proud of your Irish heritage

We are Irish. We are taught to be strong, have faith in God and learn how to party and have fun. Erin Go Bragh!

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I Won't Forgive The Anti-Semitic Students Of Spain Park, Not Yet

Maybe it isn't time for an apology.


I am Jewish. It is something I have never been afraid of and something I value as much in life as I do with my family and friends. Throughout my life, though I have witnessed hate of the Jewish people and jokes made about Jewish people.

In high school, I had to listen to jokes about Jews and the gas chambers and was asked because I was Jewish if I could do someone else's math homework.

To say I had to deal with anti-Semitism in the South does not come close to describing what I had to go through. As time went by the jokes stopped and I thought I would not have to deal with instances of prejudice or bigotry but I was wrong. Growing up as one of the only Jewish people in my friend group and in high school it made me consider myself strong and ready for college but in my freshman year I had to go through other jokes about my religion and even in sophomore year had to witness someone I thought was my friend make a joke about my religion because "he thought it was funny."

I let the instances of anti-Semitism serve as times when I could prove people wrong I learned to forgive and forget.

But I had to witness other acts of hate towards Judaism while in college. From swastikas on a fraternity house, a synagogue shooting, the BDS movement and more hate speech, the hate towards Jews have seemed to grow and I do not understand why. I get hurt each time I hear of an instance but it has not allowed me to view my Judaism any differently. However, there was an occurrence that has affected me in a different way.

It happened in my home state and it has not sat well with me.

On Monday a video surfaced of multiple high school students making anti-Semitic and anti-Black comments. The video featured a guy turning around the camera multiple times to show he was laughing and thought it was funny while others made comments about concentration camps, what would happen if Jews ruled the world and asking what the world would be like without the Holocaust. The students were from Spain Park in Birmingham and have gathered quite a reputation online.

To say I am filled with anger, disappointment, and embarrassment is an understatement.

This is my home state and these students are not only disrespecting the Jewish and Black people in the state of Alabama but throughout the US and possibly even in the world. I am hurt by this instance but I am not ready to forgive these students just yet.

After the video was leaked online some of the students sent messages to the person who uploaded the video apologizing. That I took as a mature gesture until I read the apology from the girl in the video. The apology asked if the user could remove the video because it would ruin her life and reputation. It was later found out that the female student is the daughter of the manager of the Toyota dealership in Hoover after the manager posted an apology.

Any remorse I had going for these students was now gone.

They were not sorry. They were sorry that they got caught and were facing consequences. They gave the apology that your parents made you say when you did not want to apologize. They did not care about who they had harmed or what they had said, they cared because they had to face consequences and they know that this mistake would follow them for the rest of their life.

I'm at a loss for words.

I don't know how to feel. I know someone will tell me I am overreacting but how am I supposed to approach this? What they said was wrong and there is no proper way to express frustration for it. I know people get offended by certain things but some things are not meant to be a joke. So I hope what you said was worth it and was fun to say because it will follow you for the rest of your life. Some lessons are best-learned overtime and it looks like you will have a chance to reflect on these events.

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