We all want everything to work out for the best, but frankly that's not how it works. We will never get everything exactly how we want it. Some things are ultimately not supposed to work out. Some relationships are just not healthy and never will be, no matter how much effort you put in.

So, I'm here to tell you if there is a friendship, relationship, or whatever ship you're trying to have or maintain with someone and you constantly find yourself putting in all the effort, it's not healthy. If you get worried about whether or not you should text them again or hang out with them, it's not healthy. If you feel like you always get put second, third, fourth, etc., it's not healthy. If you feel like you're always there for them when they need you, but they disappear when you need them, it's not healthy. If you feel like you're being consumed with worrying about this whatever ship and it's taking away your focus from other things, it's not healthy.

There will be people in your life you feel so compelled to repeatedly try and try and try to have some kind of relationship with, but it's not always healthy. There are people out there for you. There are people out there that are specifically designed to be in your life for a beautiful purpose. Do not waste your time and energy on those who don't put in the same effort and energy back. It may seem like there's this amazing possibility with someone, but honey, if you're constantly putting in all the effort and only getting something back when it's under their convenience, it's not worth it. It's not made to be worth it. It's not made to work.

If life has taught me anything it's that if you constantly push for relationships with people that don't give that same type of effort, you will be miserable. I've spent way too much time pouring myself into the wrong people. You have to find people who give 50 when you give 50 and give 80 when you can only give 20. Find those who balance you out.

Find your people. Find those who will text you in the middle of the night to see if you're okay, but more importantly find those who will text you at two in the afternoon to check up on you. Find those who love you for you. Do not change for anyone. Do not feel like you need to try so many different things and to be so many different people for anyone. There are people who are going to be there for you without you having to change. Do not continue to put your effort into the wrong people, put your effort into finding the right ones.