Does Family Really Matter?

Does Family Really Matter?

You can have everything, but if you don’t love, then all of your riches and success mean nothing.
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In the news, there have been so many reports about various attacks throughout the world.

But what hasn’t been reported in the news is the attacks that have been made on families.

Families everywhere have been attacked, ripped apart by secrets, lies, bitterness, anger, and pain – my family included.

Whether you believe in sin or not, there is a selfish part of everyone seeking out for their own good and their own interests. That very selfish nature of human beings has caused families to fall apart.

This happens because they forget that family is important. Family is God-given. You can choose your friends, but you don’t choose your family, which makes them all the more special.

No matter what has happened in your family, I know that deep down, you want to see things restored.

Don’t give up on your family, even when things don’t make sense and even when they’ve hurt you. Chances are, you’ve hurt them before too. That’s because your family members are often times the people who care most about you, even if it doesn’t come across that way all the time.

One way to not give up on your family is to keep in communication with all your family members – not just the ones you get along with. Communication is really key. From my own experience, I have seen how a lack of communication can ruin any relationship because it leads to a lack of one’s vulnerability, one’s ability to understand the feelings of the other party, and one’s ability to connect with the other person. You may not think communicating with your family member(s) will help, but when you communicate with anyone, you are on the way to fostering a connection with them. It may take some time, but don’t give up!

Connecting and spending quality time with family members will help you to learn that person’s love languages (words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, physical touch) and enable you to learn to love them for who they are.

Another way to help build a stronger family is listening to your family members. What are they trying to tell you through their words, actions, and attitudes? They may be trying to tell you what they’re feeling or going through, but how would you get to understand them if you aren’t listening to them? Everyone wants the right to be heard, but have yet to make the effort to listen to others. Listening is often times harder than communicating with people, but you may learn things about them that you never knew, and they may tell you things about yourself that you might have never known.

Above all else, love your family, despite all their flaws. I know it’s really easy loving people that aren’t your family because you don’t have to live with those people. But with family, you see everything about them. You see the mistakes they’ve made and you see how they can be hurting towards you. However, if you choose to hold that against them, you are choosing to build a wall up around yourself towards them that can harden your heart. This wall will go on to cut you off from the love you have towards life and the love you can have for other people. When you choose to cut a family member off from your life and you don’t forgive them, statistics have shown you will end up wronging others in the very same way they have wronged you.

You can have the most friends, the best career, be famous – but if you don’t love, especially your family members who are closest to you, then all of your riches and success mean nothing.

Don’t take your family for granted. Be thankful for each and every single family members. Put them before yourself. In fact, the very word family comes from the word “servant,” which goes to prove that as a family, we don’t serve our own interests, but we serve the needs of our family members. When everyone in a family loves and serves each other, things will change for the better.

Don’t be discouraged when you don’t see any results yet. But I can guarantee you that by making one step of change at a time, you will see the changes – in their life and yours.

Having a stronger family will make you a stronger person and influence how you treat other relationships outside the home as well as the way you view love and the way you accept and have confidence in the person you are.

In the Bible, it says that a house divided against itself cannot stand. However, by loving each family member and taking the time to foster a relationship with them, your family will become strong enough to stand against future attacks made on it, and together, your family can change the world.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.
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Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.


7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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5 Truths Every Future Teacher 100 Percent Already Knows, So You Don't Have To Remind Them

We are going to school for years, to be in a school for the rest of our working lives.

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All of us future teachers typically hear the same sorts of things about what we are going to be doing with the rest of our lives. While none of the following reasons are necessarily untrue, there are silver linings to absolutely all of them that make each and every one of the future teachers sitting in college classrooms right now, even more excited for what lies ahead.

1. We do understand that we won't necessarily make a lot of money.

One of my professors told my class that if you're taking this career path for the money, you're in the wrong place because this should be about your love for teaching, not for an increasing salary. While it is important to know what you're getting into, I completely agree with that professor.

2. We know being an education major is actually difficult.

On a college campus, the most common stereotype floating around about education majors is that their workload is extremely easy as well as their classes. Sure, it's no Stoichiometry (I can't even imagine sitting in a classroom learning about that), but our classes are hard in their own way. Having to relearn the basics of subtracting three-digit numbers to then be able to teach to a second grader is a lot harder than it sounds, thank you common core!

3. It's not really the same thing every year.

As a teacher, you have a curriculum that requires you to teach the same content to your students every year for the duration of your career. However, every year has the potential to be extremely different from the next. Each year you have a new batch of kids, a new batch of personalities and a new batch of stories. This is one of the most exciting parts about teaching, you have the ability to know what to expect but also so much uncertainty at the same time.

4. Yes, we will be with children all day.

"Aren't you going to get bored talking like a kid and having to look down a few feet just to make eye contact?" Yes I have been asked this and frankly, as a future teacher, I wouldn't want it any other way! Working with kids all day and being their support system and voice while also providing them with the things they need to learn as they grow up is my ideal day in the workplace. But yes, there will be adults as well, other teachers, who all will feel the same way when we take a break from those kids at lunch.

5. It takes a special heart to be a teacher.

Yes, this is an argument all around the education field, and while it's true, I believe that anyone could work to have the heart to be a teacher. Being a teacher requires patience, care, love, and the desire to work with kids. If you don't have any of these qualities, then yes maybe it does take a special heart to be a teacher.

With all of the above comments kept in mind, I personally couldn't be more excited to teach kids of any ability and age. Working with children on a daily basis for nine months out of the year can get negative comments, but as a future teacher I think that there is a silver lining to each one of the five comments. If you think about it, there probably is a teacher in your life that without, you might not have gotten to the point you are at today. So thank your past teachers, and here's to the the future teachers.

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