When it comes down to it, the hardest person on you is always yourself. You pick apart every single thing you do in an attempt to be better than the person you were before. You don’t mean to do it, it’s just the time we are in. We are all basically taught to bully ourselves because in the eyes of someone, usually someone irrelevant, you are not enough.
We are taught to be kind to everyone around us and not be judgemental, but then we are mean, degrading and judgemental of ourselves. We allow every little mistake we made and accident we’ve done to be our deciding factors in how we view our self worth. We think just because we have made a mistake once in our lives that we will never deserve the love and respect that we are taught to give to everyone else.
You fail a test and you let the grade number on the top of that page make you feel lesser of a person. You don’t meet your goal weight, or don't get many likes on a picture and we are taught those are reasons to look at ourselves differently?
We are taught that we should treat people the way you want to be treated, but in reality a lot of the time the person that treats us the worse is ourselves. We have spent most our lives comparing ourselves to celebrities or people we have idolized when there is really no reason too. We look at someone who we admire and want to be like them, look like them, and basically be everyone we are not. We are convinced inside our heads that there will always be someone we should be like.
Sadly, no one really sees that who they are is already perfect. They want to be the next greatest thing, they want to be better than a person who they think doesn’t deserve what they have. Everyone needs to learn to stop comparing themselves to the people around them.
Too many people think they need to be someone they are not for someone who clearly expects too much from them. You are who you are for a reason, never forget that.
People need to stop bullying themselves into self hatred and misery. Just learn to be who you are and accept it. Stop believing you don’t deserve the world, because you deserve the world and so much more.
“Self worth is so vital to your happiness. If you don’t feel good about yourself, it’s hard to feel good about anything else.” - Mandy Hale