There are some relationships that are just not quite right. Some relationship dynamics put you in a state of difficulty and stress. Doesn’t matter the reason, if your partner is not making you happy at the end of the day, it’s not ever worth it.

Some guys won’t be ready, regardless of their age. If they’re mentally premature and do not have the motivation to work on themselves, you will always be frustrated. I understand it’s hard because you are in love with this individual. Maybe they introduced a new facet of life to you, and you are afraid to detach it from this person. But honey, you are sad. You are reading this.

If you have been enamored by the memories hoping things would return back to where you were, or maybe what you had dreamed of, it’s not healthy to be suffering. The right kind of love won’t leave you feeling sad and wistful. The right kind of love won’t make you feel lonely or uncared for. The right kind of love won’t just leave you during hardships. If you feel this way, really be honest with yourself. You need to believe that this is not the right kind of love.

If you have been reading stuff like this for a while, looking for a sign, then this is what I have to tell you. This is your sign to be strong. Leave the relationship that makes you unhappy. If your partner can’t help you become the better you, leave it where it is, and work on returning yourself back to where you stood before. Likely, there are ups and downs to a relationship and granted, you are looking for some answers.

However, if this person is too tired to work on it with you to the same extent you are going, really take my advice and be the stronger one in the relationship. Move yourself forward for yourself. Don’t stay in a relationship just because you think it’s as good as it gets. I promise you, if it’s meant to be, it’ll stay. However, you seem to be the only one staying.

It’s hard. Especially if this is your first experience being in love. You’ll confuse yourself because you’ll probably overthink things. From my experience, there’s always another chance, however, you should never wait or force it to happen. Leave your idealization behind because it will hold back your own power to move on from what has been hurting you. If the person wants to change their ways, you’ll only know for certain by leaving them alone to self-reflect.

Clearly, whatever you had tried by telling them by their side wasn’t working. It’s the truth, you cannot and should not waste your life trying to change someone. When you’re chronically upset, know that either you or he needs to change. Something needs to happen. Time makes things happen. Be patient, be strong.