Have you ever met someone who you’ve instantly connected with? The more you guys talked, the more that you guys hung out with each other, and the more you felt like they may be “the one.”
Well, let’s investigate a little further into this “special bond” that you two had, shall we?
Has this person ever treated you like royalty compared to everybody else? Did they initiate more conversations with you? Did they initiate more alone time with just the two of you?
Was this person usually the one who texted you first? Did this person text you paragraphs and paragraphs until midnight? Was it their idea to start a Snapchat streak with you? Did they hug you like you were their favorite childhood toy? Did their face light up with the sunniest smile on their face every time they saw you?
Did your heart drop to your stomach every time you saw them? Did they ever tell you how pretty you looked when you least expected it? Did this person ever say, “I missed you” after not seeing you for three days? Did this person ever get sad when you wouldn’t contact them after a few days?
Did this person give you their full undivided attention when they were talking to you face to face? Did this person make time for you even if they had a lot of homework? Did this person constantly ask you about your life and how you are doing?
Did this person like you as more than a friend?
Well, I’ve got news for you...the answer is no.
So, wait a second…you’re telling me that this person doesn’t like me back despite all of the obvious signs that they have been showing me? No. They don’t like you in that way. This is something that I’d like to call "leading someone on."
This is a cruel and cold-hearted thing to do to anyone because this person made me think that I had a good chance with them. Because this person would do these gentlemen-like gestures that no guy (besides my ex) has ever shown me before.
He would go out of his way to make sure that I felt included whenever I was hanging out with him and his friends. He would always know if I wasn’t fine.
He would reach out to me if he knew that I wasn’t fine.
He would listen to me and seem very interested in whatever I was talking about (even if he looked extremely bored). And overall, he would just make me feel like a princess in his eyes.
Now, every time I see him, it kills me. It kills me to know that it’s going to take some time for me to find another guy who I will share that same connection with. Because I honestly don’t know what this guy is thinking or feeling.
I am done with these mixed signals even if he sees me as just a friend. I am done playing these guessing games. Now, the next step for me is just to continue to live my life by hanging out with my friends and family, doing my school work, participating in extracurricular activities, and knowing that “the right guy” for me will come along someday.