Do Not Fear The Future, Learn To Embrace It

Do Not Fear The Future, Learn To Embrace It

Do not be afraid of what is to come, because the anxieties you feel are all in your head.

We all have things we are afraid of. Whether it is heights, spiders, or clowns, or even irrational fears we had as kids like the monster under our bed or in the closet. No matter how common or weird, everyone has a fear or something they always try to avoid. For myself, I have a few basic fears, but the one I always try to block out or escape from is the thought of my future. Seems pretty lame right? But like I said before, everyone has something they try to avoid, like mistakes they made in their past they try to forget. Only for me, it’s not the past that I worry about anymore, it is the mistakes I made in the past that I know might if not already hurt my future.

As kids, we all thought about our futures. Like what would we be when we grow up? What type of car would you drive? What will high school and college be like? But then time goes by in the blink of an eye and you’re already in college planning out your future. It seems like everyone around you has their life together and they will be set for their future after college, while you sit there thinking you are not even close to where they are at. So you begin to feel nervous, like, what if I don’t graduate? What if I can’t find a job anywhere after college? And the anxiety and fear of your future begin to consume you until you feel sick. This is a feeling I know all too well.

Some days, it feels like you’re really on top of things and you’re getting ahead in life. Then suddenly, you get a bad grade on an exam that drops you down and makes life seem a lot worse than it actually is. And while you failed that exam and your grade slides, someone else gets an A on it and they brag about how they have a 4.0 and that they are on track to graduate on time, and the feeling of fear and anxiety for your future begins to take over your mind again. You keep thinking about all these what if’s. Like what if I don’t pass this class, what if I fall behind in my courses and have to stay an extra semester or 2? What if all this work I put in is all for nothing? What if I let my parents down…

This feeling of fear, when I think about my future has plagued my mind for as long as I can remember. It is just scary to think about everything you have worked so hard for being all for nothing, and you finally graduate and you can’t find a job. But the one thing I have learned is that you have to take a deep breath, take a step back, and look at where you are. Look at how far you have come. Don’t think about all the times you failed, think about all the times you got yourself back up and kept going. Don’t worry about everyone else, yes some people will have their life together, but that does not mean you will never have yours together. Sometimes you have to focus purely on yourself and worry about where you are in life. Because one day, you are going to graduate. Whether it takes four years, four and a half, five, or even six years, by that time you will be more than ready for the real world, and you will realize that everything you feared was just an illusion.

When it comes to looking at and planning ahead for your future, you can choose to focus on someone else’s, or you can worry about your own and work hard till you see your plan start to come together. Everything may not be okay now, but that doesn’t mean it will always be this way. There will come a time when you have everything figured out, and you can finally look back and be happy and proud of yourself because you never gave up. Even when times were rough and it felt like you wanted to quit, you kept going. My life may not be perfect now, but one day it will be. And when that day comes, I will look back and see how I conquered my fear and learned that it was all in my head, that in the end, I had no reason to be afraid of my future. Until that day, I will learn to embrace the challenges of tomorrow and learn to not be afraid of my future, but to embrace it.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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Like many other college students, I was ready for summer but was kinda bummed that I had to work. Its not that I didn't like where I was working, I actually was really lucky to be working in a hospital environment but I just hated being alone all summer from 9-5. I've had this job for a few years now and a few other paid interns came and went but I never really connected with any of them. This year is different though.

I got really lucky to have another intern work with me that was very similar to me. The tasks we got were always simple but they were made to be more fun because I got to do them while talking with someone else. Now I actually enjoy and look forward to going to work.

The key to finding a good job is finding one that you enjoy doing and one that will help you gain knowledge that will help you out with future career plans. Working with friends also make tasks enjoyable! I would be careful with working with your friend however because if your job needs you to be serious and focused, being around your best friends may distract you from that.

Another thing that definitely makes summer jobs more enjoyable are taking breaks! It is your summer vacation after all! I'm not saying don't take a day off just to sit around, but if you make plans with family and friends, take a Friday off and enjoy the warm weather and good company! Employers understand that us college students and on break and have lives, they are usually very lenient with days off!

If you have to do a summer job to make money to live off of or pay for college, the best thing to do is look at the big picture. If you don't enjoy your job but can't afford to quit, remember that the money if going to help you out a lot. Also, this job is probably only for the summer right? So it's not permanent my friend! Get through these annoying few weeks and you will be back at college, taking steps for a bigger and brighter future.

Summer jobs are tough, I know, but make the most of it! And don't forget to enjoy it whenever you can!!!


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