Divorce is a growing issue in the United States that's affecting families everywhere. It is more common for people to have divorced parents than parents who are still married. Coming from a family of divorced parents, I can stress the factors of divorce, negative and positive.
Divorce (or dissolution of marriage) is the termination of a marriage or marital union, the canceling and/or reorganizing of the legal duties and responsibilities of marriage, thus dissolving the bonds of matrimony between a married couple under the rule of law of the particular country and/or state. Divorce is often against different religions. Christianity is one of those. According to the Bible, marriage is a lifetime commitment. Through the prophets, God emphasized three principles: marriage is sacred, God hates divorce, and marriage is designed to produce children of good character. It is mentioned several times in the Bible about how divorce is unacceptable. Although it is against certain religions divorce is continually growing.
Do people have the skills to work out the inevitable difficulties that arise in marriage? Apparently not, statistically it is now expected that 45 percent of all new first marriages will end in divorce. This means that nearly half of all new marriages will not survive. Many of the men and women caught up in these divorces are likely to remarry, and 60 percent of these marriages will also end in divorce. Divorce also differs from country to country. The only countries that do not allow divorce are the Philippines and the Vatican City, an ecclesiastical state, which has no procedure for divorce. Other countries use religious law to administer marriages and divorces, eliminating this distinction. In these cases, religious officials are generally responsible for interpretation and implementation.
Divorce is most commonly known for destroying families. If children are involved in a divorce it makes things that much harder. Divorce introduces a huge change in the life of a boy or girl no matter what the age. Witnessing loss of love between parents, having parents break their marriage commitments, adjusting to going back and forth between two different households, and the daily absence of one parent while living with the other, all create a challenging new family circumstance in which to live. The terms of events can affect children differently depending on if they are still a child or an adolescent. The children feel a sense of more dependency on the parents as the adolescent grows even more independence. Adolescents now have more social stigma and favor friends over most things as they are more distant from the parents. For the child, divorce causes trust issues in dependency on parents who now act in an extremely unreliable way. Where the child may have tried to get parents back, the adolescent may try to get back at the parents. Where the child felt grief, the adolescence has a grievance. Every person reacts differently to certain situations and most divorce cases are held off for the sake of the children.
Why do people get divorced? People have several reasons why they leave their spouse but according to a "Health & Fitness: Cheat Sheet" article from 2015, the top three reasons people got divorced was because of social media, resentment, and infidelity. As social media grows so does the issues in relationships. Andrew Newbury, of Slater and Gordon, said: "Five years ago Facebook was rarely mentioned in the context of a marriage ending, but now it has become commonplace." He continues: "Social media is the new marriage minefield. Social media, specifically pictures and posts on Facebook, are now being routinely raised in divorces." A Huffington Post article notes that the root of every divorce, no matter if it's adultery, growing apart, arguing a lot, or not being able to agree, stems from the larger root of resentment. At some point in any relationship, someone will harbor resentment for their significant other, which follows the common belief that love and hate are practically the same things. Cheating is at the root of 55% of divorces. Relationship experts say that marriage-ending extramarital affairs usually begin emotionally when a spouse finds his or herself confiding in someone other than their spouse.