I like to think of the dating world as a watering hole in Africa. It’s a big area with lots of different individuals that are doing lots of different things but they’re all there to get a drink of water (i.e. find love). That’s the goal, right? Eventually, if you’re engaging in the dating scene, then you don’t want to spend the rest of your life alone. The problem with the watering hole though is that it’s not always civil. Sometimes a big ol’ lion sweeps through and eats a zebra but that’s just the way it goes. Same with heartbreak. So what are we girls, who identify more with the zebra than the lion, supposed to do when we think this handsome lion is approaching to say hello and he really just eats your heart out? Well, here are some things to keep in mind.
1. Don’t blame yourself
There is nothing wrong with you. That boy that dumped you or did some other shitty thing that boys often do, is obviously, just not the right boy for you. This does not mean that you’re broken or that you’re going to end up a hermit all alone. He’s an idiot for letting you go.
2. Cry, but not too much
You have to get it out, girl. If you bottle up the pain from a broken heart it will just make you crazy. Crying is not being weak. You cry, hell you sob, ugly cry it out but don’t cry over him for too long. If for a couple days you need to have a good sob once a day, do it, but if it’s been a few weeks and you’re still uncontrollably crying over some boy, get it together. There are plenty of others at the watering hole.
3. Pick yourself back up
Alright, you cried, you probably ate a lot of ice cream and now it’s time to get back on your feet. The best way to stick it to a heart breaker is to show him that he was nothing more than a fly on your haunches and there are plenty more where he came from. So swat that pest away and keep walking. You got this.
Getting your heart broken sucks, the dating world sucks but you have to risk it to get the biscuit and in my, oh-so-hopeful, mind I’m holding on to the idea that when I finally find the right one, it will make all this worth it. There is one important thing that you have to always keep in mind though and that is that NO BOY CAN EVER MAKE YOU FEEL WORTHLESS. You are more than any boy that comes to your life, whether he’s amazing or an arse because regardless of whether or not he sticks around you will be the same person. So keep reminding yourself that you are strong, beautiful, smart and downright awesome and no one can change that.