Discovering Who You Really Are

Discovering Who You Really Are

The Best Part Of Getting Lost Is Finding Yourself..

Growing up I always wondered what type of person I was going to become. Was I going to be like my mom? Or even maybe my sister? I was so curious because I want to be that person that everybody loves, who people want to be friends with, and most importantly somebody who I knew my family would be proud of.

I faced many challenges growing up. Some I overcame, yet some I still deal with. I went through my parent's divorce, I was bullied throughout middle school and partially through high school, my grandmother was diagnosed with cancer, and I almost lost my sister while she was giving birth to my twin nieces, plus more (but you get the picture).

I have always been the shy girl; the girl that sat in class quite and praying that she would not get called on by the teacher. I have always been so paranoid about what everyone else would think of me I was always trying to fit in and hoping that they would like me.

The older I get the more I realize that all those things I was so worried about growing up were so dense. I was so caught up in the present and trying to fit in instead of really just trying to be me.

My mom always told me growing up, "stay true to who you really are." My mom could not be any more accurate. Staying true to who you are, your morals, and your faith is what molds you as a person and what sets you apart from everybody else.

Growing up I don't think we truly ever find out who we really are as we are always growing and learning from our past. I am 22 years old and I am still trying to find out who I really am. In life, we are faced with tough battles and in the real world, it is sometimes very easy to lose who we really are and just go with the flow.

When asking my mom to describe the type of person I am she said compassionate, outgoing, and ambitious( Thanks, mom). When asking my step-dad he said, beautiful, energetic, and happy (Hal you rock). When asking my best friend she said, spunky, selfless, and sweet (love you, Hailee). When asking my boyfriend he said, loving, caring, and unique (Brandon thanks for putting up with me).

So as I continue to grow into who I really am, I hope to take those traits that very important people in my life said about me. Because who they see me as is important and I want others to see e for who I am.

So to the girl that is trying to find herself, stay true to who you really are and don't give up on yourself because as an individual we all continue to grow and develop new unique characteristics that will stick with us. Attract what you expect, reflect what you desire, become what you respect, and mirror what you admire.

Life is not only about finding yourself, but discovering who God created you to be.

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Basics – How to Shave Beard?- Tips for Guys

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Young adolescent boys enjoy youthfulness. They like to wear new costumes, and do different haircuts. However, they grow ultra thin moustache and beard on their faces. Bushy beard and dense moustache are not attractive. Sweethearts like well-shaven face without wild beard. Therefore, they should abide by few important tips how to shave beard fantastically.

DIY Beard Shaving Tips

See, professional barbers reshape rough beard and disheveled hair. They are professional with little passion to assist customers who are not matured. At home, try to trim the unwanted beard to smoothen up the facial skin dynamically. DIY beard shaving methods are cost effective to economical guys. For rookies, it will be difficult to wipe out strong hairs of the beard efficiently. So, they must have guide from experts or seniors. For example, watching seniors to remove grey beard hairs fluently, they are competent to clean the face. Besides, online demos and slide shows with step-wise guidance how to shave beard are helpful to beginners.

Basics of Beard Shaving Toolkit

  • Arrange a curvy gripe safe ergonomic sharp razor which is hand-driven
  • Shaving cream with a brush for skin exfoliation
  • A cup of lukewarm water to disinfect shaving tools
  • A bottle of black cumin seeds tincture for healing up wounds and bleeding
  • A small scissor for beard trimming
  • Cotton balls or clean clothes
  • A small wall mountable glass/large mirror to see
  • First of all, observe your face before driving your razor
  • Check whether your face has also zits, or pimples
  • Avoid the infected areas when you start removing beard with sharpened razor.
  • It is better to trim dense beard hair to make it easy for you
  • Then hold your razor carefully to steer clear of bleeding and cut
  • Drench your face in water and then apply shaving cream to brush up both sides of cheeks including chin using a soft brush.
  • Start straight from the top.
  • Slow but steadfast razor moving is beneficial to teenager
  • Beard on cheeks should be cut slowly without leaving deep dent
  • When you let your razor drive down to drill on chin, you must safeguard throat. Mobility in razor controlling is necessary.
  • Manage your tension
  • Go for complete beard shaving.
  • If you receive mild injury, you must not forget to apply topical anti-bacterial oil or spray on the wound. Don’t scratch or do hard rubbing. It will make the wounds severe.

1 Minute Guide to Shave Beard-Steps

Usually, dudes are interested to do double beard shaving to enhance the skin fairness. There should not be anything left incomplete on your face. For this reason, you must rub your face with fingers to measure the degree of smoothness. Finally, in the case of skin infection, pre-existing inflammation and allergies, guys have to use biodegradable antibiotic lotion/gel and cream to take care of the face. Modern guys must become handsome to entice women. They should learn techniques to shave wild beard for physical aesthete.

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1. Introduce yourself, and lay your ground rules

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Are you someone that you'd like to follow? Can you see uneasiness on your team? Check in with yourself, constantly. Make sure you are always adjusting and readjusting to be the leader you would like your team to be proud of. Think of some of your favorite, and most effective leaders. See what they did right, and what they did wrong.

Everyone will have to follow a leader someday. Make sure you're being the type of leader that you wouldn't mind following. The tricky thing about leading is that, mentally, you must equalize yourself to your team. Emotionally, you must be aware of all of your words and actions, but overall, everything you do will be interpreted differently. You must write your own narrative.

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