Relationships are great, I think that they can bring a lot of fun and good times into someones life. I do also believe that they can keep you from experiencing moments in life that you wouldn't experience in the same way if you were in a relationship.

Coming into my senior year of high school, my closest friends and I decided we wouldn't date anyone our senior year. We were not bitter about anything, and its not like we couldn't have found someone if we wanted to. But rather, we simply realized that it was a time of our lives that we had wanted for ourselves. We wanted to spend our weekends together at the roller rink messing around, and occasionally talking to girls there, enjoying our last year all living together in the same town. We knew that if we were to get into a relationship we most likely would end up breaking it off as it came time to go off to college. Looking back I don't regret that one bit. Seeing all the kids who wasted time with relationships that were put under pressure with the future approaching. These were some of the best months of my life. And as college was approaching, I knew that I might want to do the same thing. I didn't want to pursue a relationship when I knew If I wasn't ready.

A-lot of people have this idea that they have to find someone freshmen year, and at Judson that means finding your future spouse. #ring by spring. Anyways, as first semester began I quickly realized how almost all the relationships formed freshmen year started and ended just as quickly as they began. I didn't want to spend this time worrying, or rushing into any form of relationship. Music was a big reason I came to Judson. Having a full functioning studio and a place to store my drum set was a huge deal for me. This is the time of your life when you find yourself, and start figuring stuff out for yourself. I have started to really enjoy my major and my passion for graphic design has evolved greatly since I picked the major. I also saw fellow peers getting so involved in these relationships, that they made their career and self interest a secondary thing.

Not saying that I am not interested in finding someone, and maybe that someone will be at Judson, its just I want it to work. I have never actually been in a relationship before, and I'm okay with that for two reasons. One, I could have been in plenty, but I don't latch onto relationships particular fast. I wait till I know for sure and that helps to avoid a lot of future problems. Two, I'm confident enough to realize I don't need anyone, and I enjoy the freedom that comes with being single. Not being in a relationship has given me time to pursue the things I have wanted to and it has allowed me to understand myself better. When it comes time for me to be open to dating, she will have to be someone very special. Though she might not be the one I spend the rest of my life with, I want it to be with someone I wouldn't mind spending it with. Someone who holds the same values and optimism for the world.

I was always the kid who couldn't see myself getting married for along time, but as time moves along and you realize you don't get to chose those things, and you see your age climbing up there. Just remember there is no need to rush it, its nice being able to take your time and enjoy the road as your travel it.