Depression: It's Not Just a Phase

Depression: It's Not Just a Phase

We need to quit overgeneralizing, and start realizing it's an actual issue.

There are two disorders that are extremely over generalized. Those are depression and anxiety. You hear people talking about how depressed they are or how much anxiety something brings. I'm sure that at times people do feel depressed. I'm sure that at time people really do struggle with anxiety of some kind. But to the people that deal with them each and every day, it's almost like we are making a big deal out of something that really isn't a big deal. When in all reality, there are days when we struggle to even get out of bed.

When we start over generalizing things like depression, anxiety, and other disorders both physical and mental it's like we are saying they aren't serious issues. It's like we are saying that people don't need to get help when in all reality they may really need it. Every time I hear someone say "I'm so depressed" it makes me feel as though my own depression isn't real. That I'm wrong for seeking help, or even admitting that I have a problem. And I'm not the only one that feels that way. I know I'm not.

When we over generalize and we make light of things like depression and anxiety it can cause more damage. Because as a society we have taken things that we overgeneralize and we almost mock them. We take things, such as illness or physical or mental disabilities and we make them seem like they aren't even meaningful. Like these things aren't actually things that make a life more or less livable. And that is when people who suffer from depression and anxiety believe that their problems aren't actual problems.

Unless you deal with depression and anxiety you have no idea what it's like. We don't want to hear that you "understand" what we are going through when you don't. You don't know the pain that we feel. You don't know the time that we have spent crying ourselves to sleep. You don't understand the pain that comes with people telling you to get over it, that it's just a phase Well, it's not. Sure, it comes in waves, but it's not just a phase. It's a life long struggle that we have to deal with day to day.

The feelings of worthlessness. The feelings of not being good enough. They are all fed into when we overgeneralize or act like the problems aren't real. Sure, sometimes it is a genuine. Sometimes there is just something that makes you forget that people battle inner demons. I get it. But when you tell me that I need to get over it. That I need to just put it all aside and just get on with my life. I'm sorry no. That's not how it works.

The next time someone starts an overgeneralization of depression, anxiety, or any other illness or disorder, I want you to stop and think. Stop and think about the things that you deal with, that you struggle with, and how it would feel if someone told you it was no big deal.

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To The Friends I Won't Talk To After High School

I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.


So, for the last four years I’ve seen you almost everyday. I’ve learned about your annoying little brother, your dogs and your crazy weekend stories. I’ve seen you rock the awful freshman year fashion, date, attend homecoming, study for AP tests, and get accepted into college.

Thank you for asking me about my day, filling me in on your boy drama and giving me the World History homework. Thank you for complimenting my outfits, laughing at me presenting in class and listening to me complain about my parents. Thank you for sending me your Quizlets and being excited for my accomplishments- every single one of them. I appreciate it all because I know that soon I won’t really see you again. And that makes me sad. I’ll no longer see your face every Monday morning, wave hello to you in the hallways or eat lunch with you ever again. We won't live in the same city and sooner or later you might even forget my name.

We didn’t hang out after school but none the less you impacted me in a huge way. You supported my passions, stood up for me and made me laugh. You gave me advice on life the way you saw it and you didn’t have to but you did. I think maybe in just the smallest way, you influenced me. You made me believe that there’s lots of good people in this world that are nice just because they can be. You were real with me and that's all I can really ask for. We were never in the same friend group or got together on the weekends but you were still a good friend to me. You saw me grow up before your eyes and watched me walk into class late with Starbucks every day. I think people like you don’t get enough credit because I might not talk to you after high school but you are still so important to me. So thanks.

With that said, I truly hope that our paths cross one day in the future. You can tell me about how your brothers doing or how you regret the college you picked. Or maybe one day I’ll see you in the grocery store with a ring on your finger and I’ll be so happy you finally got what you deserved so many guys ago.

And if we ever do cross paths, I sincerely hope you became everything you wanted to be. I hope you traveled to Italy, got your dream job and found the love of your life. I hope you have beautiful children and a fluffy dog named Charlie. I hope you found success in love before wealth and I hope you depended on yourself for happiness before anything else. I hope you visited your mom in college and I hope you hugged your little sister every chance you got. She’s in high school now and you always tell her how that was the time of your life. I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.

And hey, maybe I’ll see you at the reunion and maybe just maybe you’ll remember my face. If so, I’d like to catch up, coffee?



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