The Importance Of Knowing Your Self-Worth Can Follow You No Matter Where You Go

The Importance Of Knowing Your Self-Worth Can Follow You No Matter Where You Go

Never take your self-worth for granted, because in the end, it's all you have.


Let me start by being completely honest. Self-worth is something that I personally have had my own struggles with, whether it's that feeling of not being good enough for something or comparing myself to others and feeling like I don't measure up to them.

Not only is this harmful to one's own health (mental and possibly physical), but it also blocks them from receiving a positive flow of energy and sometimes things.

Self-worth is the sense of one's own value or worth as a person. In other words how you view yourself.

Never take your self-worth for granted, because in the end, it's all you have.

This comes into play in relationships a lot more than we often realize. I have recently written a few other articles on some of my own personal relationships and how they affected me in this way.

And it's not just about the toxicity of a relationship (romantic or otherwise), but everything else that comes along with it, good or bad. It's enjoying the little things and the memories you make together. It's laughing and having a good time. But MOST importantly, it's having the ability to leave if it becomes so toxic that it's filled with more bad than good.

Toxic relationships can be hard to define and in some ways, a relationship (yours or someone else's) you think is, others may not. It's all in the eye of the beholder. For me, it wasn't until a friend of mine who was on the outside of the relationship pointed out how toxic it truly was. But by that point, the damage was done and it took a while for me to get back to the person I was before it.

So, in short, your opinion on yourself is the one that matters most, no one else's. It's so easy for people to look into the mirror and pick out the things they hate about themselves or to look at someone else and wish they had whatever they had (good job, slimmer waist, longer hair, etc.). DON'T do it. You don't have to be wonderful like them -- you can be wonderful as you.

So how do you know (in the instance of a relationship, romantic or not) when it's at that point?

You start to feel bad about things that once made you happy. You lose motivation for things you once loved. This is why knowing your self-worth is SO important and means everything.

As humans, we must know the importance of our worth. If someone makes you feel bad about yourself, they're not the right person for you. Setting high goals and even higher standards can help immensely, but so can putting yourself first once in a while and asking "Is what is happening here good for me?".

Dr. Suess once said:

"Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is youer than you."

And that is so important for someone who struggles with self-worth or thinking that they aren't enough or even that they need to follow the crowd to "fit in" and be like everyone else.

Life is too short to be involved with toxic people who bring you down. Do not be afraid to stand up for yourself and even walk away if necessary.

And most importantly do not let anyone or anything define your worth.

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When You're Feeling Unattractive, Read This

Beauty is a concept, not a physical thing.


Sometimes, I feel fabulous

When I look in the mirror, I am pleased with what I see. I love the shape of my face, the way that my brown hair catches the light and makes it streaked with gold. I love the colors of my eyes and how they remind me of a dense forest in spring when life begins anew after a long winter. Finally, I love the shape of my body. I love it's uniqueness, how no one else has this body that I possess.

When I have days like this, I feel absolutely beautiful. I feel like no man is worthy of my heavenly beauty or vivacious personality. But, of course, not every day is perfect. Some days, the demons that live within our minds and begin pointing out every minuscule flaw that they can find.

"Look how stringy your hair is, looks like someone is beginning to go bald."

"I see that your muffin top is bulging over the side of your jeans."

"Uh oh, looks like the medium is too tight. I guess you'll have to go to an extra large."

"Your brown eyes remind me of a freshly dropped cow pie."

When we begin to hear these voices, it's hard to tune them out since they're the loudest speakers in the room. It also doesn't help when we see "conventionally" attractive people getting everything they want out of life while we "normies" are left with a sandwich and a bag of half-eaten chips. It can be hard when the world wants us to look a certain way but we don't "look" that way because we didn't win the genetic lottery. We've been told over and over again that beauty is only "skin deep" and we shouldn't judge ourselves based on the images in magazines and on TV. While that's some decent advice to go by, there comes a time that phrase becomes overused and trite. So, instead of thinking of beauty as being within, why don't we try this:

Define your own type of beauty.

Look in the mirror and turn what you perceive to be flaws into what makes you unique. Have an "ugly" scar on your lip? Turn it into your battle scar from when you fought a bear with your bare hands. Think you have too many freckles? They're just many kisses from the sun because he loves you. You feel like you're too curvy? You're the next Botticelli muse who will appear as Venus in his newest painting.

Beauty is completely made up and isn't defined by one definite answer. We perceive beauty how we want to see it. When we begin to focus on our uniqueness rather than what makes us "unattractive", we'll begin to see that we're all individual pieces of art that bring beauty and diversity to our dull world. I know it sounds absolutely cheesy, but it's the truth. Looking beautiful for the attention of others isn't important: what's important is loving yourself first and celebrating yourself.

Cheer up, gorgeous: you're doing just fine.

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To The Girl Who Hasn't Yet Found Herself, Keep Looking

You will eventually find her in all the right places, I promise.


They say you are supposed to go through your awkward transition phase during middle school, but you still feel like you haven't quite figured it out. They say you are supposed to join a club in order to "find yourself", but then you end up sitting in the back watching everyone laugh and catch up. You feel out of place--like you're existing somewhere you just don't belong. Let me be the voice telling you that you are exactly where you are meant to be right now. Every decision you've ever made has led you to this place. This is, of course, much harder to grasp than to just say. Really though, you're doing just fine!

Finding out the things you don't like to do are just important as discovering your passions when it comes to finding your true self. Don't be afraid to join that club, talk to the girl next to you in class, and explore your interests. You might hate it. You might want to run away, but at least you're learning about yourself and where your comfort zone lies. Finding yourself is a life long process, so don't expect an Aha! moment where you have finally hit your destination. Think of it more as a sense of confidence of comfortability in who you are and what you stand for.

Stepping away from friends and family for some time may also lead you to who you are. Often, we grow up and mature only to have the same beliefs, morals, and political opinions as our parents. It's not our fault and we aren't childish, we just trust our parent's judgment and see their conscience as nothing but truth. Part of gaining independence is questioning your own biased beliefs and reevaluating them so they reflect your character better. Same goes with friends. Try to spend a Friday night in with yourself. See what you do. Do you watch a movie? Do you catch up on homework? Do you paint your nails? What is it that makes you feel happy when nobody else is around? By considering the answer to this question, you're one step closer to figuring this whole life thing out.

You may also want to try stepping away from your phone. Your social media (this shouldn't come as a surprise) is giving you the false idea that everyone around you knows exactly what they're doing and enjoys doing it all. Not true. So not true actually, everyone else is struggling to find out just who they are. You and your phone need some distance.

Finding yourself doesn't just happen. You need to explore the world around you and you'll eventually find out where your place is. Be patient with the process and know the right steps will surface when you're ready to take them. Be kind to yourself and have the bravery to discover the girl inside you (I hear she's really cool).

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