Dear Tinder,

I don’t really know what I was expecting when I first downloaded you. Sure, I wanted a fling or some sort of late summer romance. Something to keep my mind occupied while I worked 5-6 days a week and prepared for my junior year of college.

But really, what I got, was a hookup app.

Yes, a hookup app.

I am not saying this with a negative connotation. But you cannot classify Tinder as a dating app, because it is in no way, shape, or form related to the word “dating”.

However, maybe my definition of dating is a little outdated.

A little old-fashioned.

A little chivalrous.

A little classy.

No, wait. That is exactly what dating is: old-fashioned, chivalrous, and classy.

Why does Tinder feel it has the recognition to call itself a dating app?

Sure, some people go on dates. Do people start dating?

I have heard of maybe 2-3% of instances in which two people actually start dating after talking on Tinder.

Here’s something: why do you guys think it’s okay to open a conversation with anything along these lines:

“You’re hot.”

“Want to f**k?”

“Damn, you’re so sexy.”

“Hey you are so attractive! What are you up to?”

First of all, not everyone is on the app to hookup and sleep around and be casual. If you are, great! If you aren’t, great! But for those that aren’t, you are going to have a hard time finding what you are looking for, simply because most guys on this app want something casual and breezy.

I would really like to believe that I am wrong about this. I would really like to believe that most guys are looking for something somewhat serious, but I just can’t.

My experience with the app has been as follows:

I’ve gone on a few dates.

I’ve hung out with a few guys.

I’ve talked to a good number of guys but the conversation usually fades.

I’ve experienced way too much of instances like these:

The last one just makes me want to roll my eyes.

I’m sharing these with you to show you that Tinder can be very degrading as a human being. I have had so many of these “conversations” or whatever you want to call them. The instances where someone has shown wanting to be serious with me, they also end like this as well.

I get it. Sex is fun and flirty. Talking about sex is fun, too.

But if that’s all you’re looking for from the beginning, then just be honest about it.

Guys and gals, don’t pretend you’re interested in someone if all you’re really interested in is their body. I am calling Tinder a hookup app, but that does not mean that everyone on the app wants to hookup.

Some girls and some guys might be taking it more seriously than you are, so have some respect and be honest about what it is you are looking for.

So take your time, decide what you want, and make your move from there. My advice, get off the app and talk to someone in person. Or at least try to. *end of rant*