Dear Me,

I’m sorry. I’m sorry that we haven’t been taking care of ourselves as much as we should. I know that we don’t always feel our best. But, we need to make a change. We need to do some growing up and it isn’t going to be fun or easy. We need to realize the weight of our actions and our words. I am sorry that we have neglected this for so long.

We have let ourselves get lazy and we have stopped striving for our best potential. Lucky for us we have been given an opportunity to change that. A recent push in a scary direction has left us with the world at our feet. So, let’s grow. Let’s stop the bullshit and quit the excuses. Now is the time to change and if we wait any longer it could be too late.

First things first. We need to take care of ourselves. That means working out, understanding our mental health, and not slipping back into old bad habits. Your body is the only one we have and it is not fair to treat it poorly. So, get up, drink a glass of water, run the three miles, and stretch. Try the yoga class, and the kick boxing class. Make your workouts fun. But we also need to think about our mental health. We need to sleep when we’re tired and eat when we are hungry. Quit ignoring your mental health because you feel annoying. You deserve so much more than that.

I am so sorry that we have spent most of our time in relationships that were not going to go anywhere. We knew we weren’t happy but we stayed because it was easy. Well we are done with that. We are done giving our time to people who do not deserve it. We are done letting people who don’t matter dictate our decisions. We are the most important person in our lives and it is time we started acting like it. Learning to be alone but not lonely is very scary. Luckily, we are surrounded by wonderful people who help us along the way.

It’s time to start appreciating the people in your life. They do so much for you. Your friends have held you through so much and the deserve all your of love and time. Make them just as much of a priority as they make you. And do the same for your family. A ten-minute phone call with them will only make your day better.

Quit blaming your problems on other people. It’s so easy to point a finger at others but its more beneficial to see how you can change. It is not always someone else’s fault and the sooner you realize that the happier you will be.

It’s time to be selfish. Take matters into our own hand and follow our dreams. But that is going to take work. And, we are going to want to give up but we can’t. The outcome of our hard work is going to be more worth it than we could ever know. So, quit making excuses and start making progress.

We are growing. And with growth comes pain but with pain comes strength. The moment we realize that our happiness won’t come from anywhere but ourselves the happier we will be. As soon as we cut our own crap we will be able to grow more. Instead of being envious of others why don’t we become what we envy and transition into the person we’ve always wanted to be. Here is your permission to kick ass every day, to grow when given the chance, to love without fear, and to be the best that we can be. So stop apologizing and just start doing.

Sincerely,

The You We Can’t Be Anymore

P.S. We both know we’ve got this.