As a female, I feel bad.
It has occurred to me, men have this mindset that they are not allowed to express their emotions. It absolutely blows my mind considering all the famous male artists that feed off of their feelings.
As boys when they get hurt, they are told from a very young age to toughen up or walk it off. When girls get hurt they are held and told that it is OK. In some cases, we are even told to cry it out. While I am not a guy, I think it is safe to say that this plays into the reason why men aren’t so quick to express their emotions.
It makes me sad. Expressing your emotions is healthy as long as it is done in a healthy way. Holding your emotions in and bottling them up is not the way to go. You might be thinking, “Right but I cry alone so it’s OK” Sure, but talking about them is how you get closure, especially if it’s with someone who is involved in the situation.
I don’t know why men find it hard to express their emotions, maybe they just want to seem tough. Whatever it may be, it’s time for a change!
Women don’t care if you show your emotions, in fact, most of us would love it if you would show them more often! We can’t read your mind and we would love to help you! Just keep in mind, there are some things you might need professional help with sometimes you really do need to just suck it up, buttercup!
Personally, men that can express their emotions in a healthy manner not only seem stronger than those who can’t but become more attractive. You guys aren’t rocks with no emotions! You are human, you are made to feel!
We were not created to live a stress-free, perfect, unproblematic, easy life. We are made to experience all these emotions, fall apart, and cry. Without pain, how are we to know joy?
A man who cries shouldn't be rare. We all feel these emotions, we should all be able to cry whenever the heck we feel like it without being judged for the reason we are crying. If it’s OK for a woman to cry over it, it’s OK for a man to cry over it. As long as you’re not crying because your girlfriend broke her nail! Because yes, that really does hurt us physically and financially! You try paying 40 plus dollars for a set and having one break.
Here’s to all the boys feeling depressed, going through some hard times, or just feeling sad. You are not alone and you are allowed to feel the way you’ve been feeling! Long to be happy, strive to feel better and be healthy emotionally — none of which mean that you have to be OK all of the time!
To every guy with a mental illness, every man that has gone through something traumatic, there is a light, you are not alone, and it’s OK to feel broken.