Dear Second Choice,

This is for you, the sorority house I put as my second choice on preference day.

I want to thank you for inviting me back to your house every day. I really appreciate the effort you put into recruiting me. I enjoyed coming to your house and meeting your members. I would have been just as happy to run home to you. I just found a house that was a better fit for me. I always felt welcomed when I came to your events, I felt like everyone I spoke to was interested in me and what I value.

Unfortunately, recruitment was a very emotional time for me.

The morning of preference day I received news that houses that I really wanted to join did not invite me back. That broke my heart, but don't get me wrong I was excited to see your name on my schedule. I just was disappointed that morning. Your house was my first party that morning. I was in front of your house less than an hour after being released by those other houses.

I probably wasn't in the right mindset when I walked through your door. I am sorry for that. I did my best to push those feelings of disappointment into the back of my head so that I would be able to give you my full attention. I felt a slight sense of relief when I walked through your doors.

I enjoyed your preference ceremony. I really did.

I had great conversations that day. I just didn't know if the feelings I felt when I walked out of your doors were sadness, excitement, relief or still the disappointment. I was very confused. I also had to run to my second preference party.

I barely had time to process everything that had happened that morning. I even remember texting my Mom and telling her that I was confused and overwhelmed. I had no idea what I was feeling when I l left your house and I am so sorry.

I am so sorry that I couldn't keep a clear head during your party. I am sorry if I ever seemed uninterested. I really wanted to feel like I had walked out of my future Home when I left your party. I just didn't. I was still confused after I left my second preference party. I had no idea what I was feeling or if I was just picking a house because I felt like I had to.

Recruitment is so weird and confusing! I know so many wonderful people from your chapter that I get to call my friends. Your chapter just wasn't a right fit for me. I don't know any other way to say it. I guess you can say that the circumstances I was dealt that day made me pick the house I did.

Before I went to rank I did have a clear head and was ready to make my decision, but I also knew that I had two house that I was happy with. I will be forever grateful for your chapter. Thank you for making my recruitment process end with me knowing that no matter which house I got a bid from would put a smile on my face!

Sincerely,

The Girl Who Put You As Her 2