To Every Doubter You're Succeeding Without

To Every Doubter You're Succeeding Without

While you're busy putting me down and making fun of my dreams, I'll be busy making them come true.

Most everyone has experienced having a dream or a goal that someone you know didn't support.

Maybe you want to be an actor, but your parents want you to go to medical school.

Maybe you want to be a doctor, but your teachers don't think you're smart enough.

Maybe you love to sing, but someone said you didn't sound good.

No matter what the dream or goal, everyone has experienced this at some point. Maybe it was your parents, your teachers, your so-called "friends," even a significant other.

This is a letter to all of those people that doubted you, and you proved them wrong.

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Dear Doubters,

I'm sure you thought you would be right. I'm sure you thought that I wouldn't succeed. But I did. You thought you could laugh at me, make fun, or convince me it would never happen. You couldn't see how much that dream meant to me. You couldn't get past your own personal agenda to support me. Maybe it didn't fit with your life. Maybe you thought I wasn't good enough, or maybe you even thought I could do better. No matter what you thought, I proved you wrong.

Maybe you didn't realize how much your lack of support hurt me, or maybe that was your intention. But it did. In life, you lean on the people around you to lift you up, to support you. That's part of what family, friends, and relationships are for. I depended on you to push me, to support me, and you didn't. You had your own idea of what I would do in life. I couldn't do different, I couldn't do better. But you were wrong.

No matter how much your lack of support or your hurtful words tried to bring me down, I didn't let it. I continued to work for my goals. I continued to chase my dreams. I fought for what I wanted in life. And I'm still fighting. Without your support.

So how does it feel? To put all of your effort into bringing me down, and for it still not to work. To make fun of me, while others admire. To see me achieving all of my goals, while you're too busy bringing others down to even work on yours. I hope it feels like a punch to the gut because that's what it felt like to have someone like you do what you did.

So I'll continue fighting, striving, and achieving. I'll continue accomplishing the things you thought I couldn't, and being admired by the things you made fun of.

I'll use you as motivation. I'll use all the negativity you sent my way as motivation. It will only make victory so much sweeter.

I only hope that you'll finally stop putting others down, and focus on yourself.


The Winner

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Some people come into your life and change you forever—thanks, bestie.

Dear best friend,

I wasn't expecting you when God placed you in my life. I had my friends. I had my people. I wasn't exactly open to the idea of new meaningful friendships because I had the ones I needed, and it didn't seem like I really needed anybody new.

Thank God that was false. Sometimes you meet people and you just know that you're going to be good friends with. Sometimes you meet people and you realize that there is no such thing as chance. I think God has a funny way of making it seem as if the things that happen to us are by chance, but honestly, that’s a load of crap. If the biggest moments of our lives were left up to chance, then I believe that would make God out to seem as if he didn’t care. It would make it seem as if He was truly abandoning me and making me face some of my most important seasons fully isolated. But you, best friend, are a true testament to the fact that God doesn’t just leave such important aspects up to chance. Thank you for taking a chance on our friendship, and thank you for allowing me to take a chance on what I didn’t realize would be the most impactful friendship in my entire life.

Thank you for being real with me. Thank you for not sugar coating things. Thank you for telling me when I have a bad attitude. Thank you for loving me through my mistakes. Thank you for supporting me in my decisions, even if it isn’t always the decision you would make. Thank you for wanting the best for me, and for making that your true intent behind the words that you say to me, whether they be constructive criticism or encouragement.

Thank you for being a goof with me. Thank you for putting me first. Thank you for seeing the importance of our friendship. Thank you for making time in your schedule for us to just sit and do homework, eat Mexican food, or sit on the porch and listen to music that emotionally wrecks you.

You’re one of a kind. You’re a shoulder to lean on. You’re a safe place. You’re a free spirit. You’re rough and tough, but your heart melts for the people you love and it’s obvious. You’re more than meets the eye. You are worth getting to know. You are worth loving. You pursue people. You are passionate about your future. You are everything that a person needs, and I really thank God that for some reason you continue to choose to be in my life. Thank you for literally dragging me up my mountains of fear when I want to stay exactly where I am at and wallow in the sadness. You bring joy—true joy—wherever you go. You are my best friend, confidant, and biggest fan. You will be the Maid of Honor, Godmother, and fun Aunt.

I used to think lifelong friendships weren’t really a thing. It just seemed like people always grew apart and forever was never a point that was attainable. Best friends forever is a cliché phrase that is continuously overused nowadays (sometimes, I even used to make light of it), but thanks for making that a reality. You are truly the best friend I could have asked for. So thank you for it all. You make life more fun, and I couldn’t thank God more for making an incredible human, friends with me.

I love you, pal!


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9 Reasons Your bestie May Not Be The Best for you anymore

Toxicity is contagious. 'Nuff said...


Best friends are sacred beings. They're the people we confide in when times are rough, plot future schemes and adventures with, and enjoy life alongside. They are treasures both in everyday life and in our hearts. But whether you've known them your entire life or met them recently in high school, there comes a time when you need to let them go. Here are nine signs that it is time to let the friendship go.

1. They're green with envy

Whatever the situation, they're always jealous of what you have. No matter what it is. New shoes? New car? New boo? They are bitter and seething envy. It is completely unbecoming of them and a major deal breaker.

2. Their attitude is "me-me-me!"

Everything is always about them. Even if a conversation begins with a problem you are having, they have a way of spinning it and making it about them. Having a bad day? Wow, they are too! Parents fighting? Sucks... So are theirs. Boy - or girl - trouble? What a shame... They do not have a care in the world. That is, unless it's about them.

3. You're a last resort

You're the person they conveniently turn to when A) their boyfriend is out of town, B) their "other friends" are busy, and/or C) it is an event they want to do, but no one else will. They expect you to hang out with them, but only if no one else is available.

4. They're never happy for youכשאני-בארוחת-שישי-ומישהי-טענה-שסדרות-של-אהרון

You could score an A on an exam, nail that interview for that amazing job, or get into the university program of your dreams and it would not matter to them. Unless is influences them positively, forget about it.

5. Everything is a competition

This goes hand-in-hand with #1! Not only are they jealous of what you have, but they suddenly need to go get something classified as "better." It never seems to end.

6. They're a negative nancy

No matter what mood you are in, they always find a way to bring you down. Whether it is by guilt tripping you, bringing up painful memories, or turning the attention to something glum, they always find a way to sink their claws in and ruin your mood. The negativity doesn't stop with you. They are also guilty of bad-mouthing other people mercilessly.

7. They critique everything

Nothing you do is right. Nothing you do is how they would of done it. You are made to feel like you can do nothing right and what you do correctly is not correct enough.

8. There is always drama

Why must every waking moment be a daytime sitcom? Why must you always point out other people's insecurities? Why can't they just be a nice, civil person? Who knows.

9. They are your "only friend"

This is by far the biggest and baddest deal breaker of them all. If they have an issue with your other friends, then get out! If they are jealous of you spending time with other people, get out! If they act like you are only allowed to spend time with them, run! And most importantly, if they ever guilt trip you by acting like you "rank" your friends, just delete their number right then and there. It'll save you a lot of trouble, I guarantee it.

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