Losing someone who you are close with is always hard. Often times the loss does not hit us right away. We can deny the loss all we want but they are still gone. We can imagine that they are sitting with us, watching over us but it is not the same. Not having their physical presence is hard to accept and move forward.
I am sure a lot of us have lost a loved one due to many different reasons; cancer, age, unknown causes and sometimes suicide. Yes, suicide. I have had my fair share of losses. Each loss hits home. Yes, I might not be super close to them, but that is one more person that the world lost. It is always hard. I always think about ways I could have prevented it, if there was anything I could have done during that time to "save" them. It is apart of the grieving stages. I lost a friend almost 2 years ago to suicide. It does not get any easier. Every time I hear about someone who committed suicide my mind goes right to my friend. I think about the times we spent together in class, our life talks we had, and simply how much he meant to me and how much we helped each other.
Hearing what happened to my friend is something I will never forget.
Friends and others find out about the loss and try to comfort you. Some push them away, while others pour their hearts out. When this happens some might not know how to help them. It is always best to simply be there for them. Let them know you are there to listen. If it comes to be too much, you can go to a trusted adult and ask for more help or advice.
We all cope in different ways. Some ways are unhealthy, while others are helpful in getting through with the loss. It takes time to accept the loss. A lot of time.
A loved one will always be at your side, no matter what. They will be there watching you grow up. They will see your fails in life but they will also see your greatest achievements. They will always be proud of you no matter what.
If you know someone who is struggling with a loss and are concerned about them do not be afraid to get them help. Make sure they are OK.
Life is full of memories.