What It's Like Dating Someone Who Has Relationship Anxiety
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What It's Like Dating Someone Who Has Relationship Anxiety

The hardest part is ignoring the voice in your head saying "you're not good enough"

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What It's Like Dating Someone Who Has Relationship Anxiety
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You go out on a date. At the end of each date, you say "I really want to see you again" Exciting words to hear are when she says yes. You get excited and she gets excited because she really likes you. She feels a strong connection with you. With you everything comes easy and it's different. You're different and she completely trusts you. You see the normal, but that's not what she is.

She is freaking out, thinking she isn't good enough.

Her fear is that you will no longer want to be around her due to the flaws she presents.

She will over analyze everything. She feels everything.

Let's be honest we've all dealt with anxiety and honestly anxiety sucks so much. But it's much different when it's relationship anxiety. Why? Because they feel all the emotions in the world.

Now I'm not going to sugar coat a damn thing. I have this very fear. I'm absolutely terrified to let myself actually stay calm. Around him, yes I am. Why? My mind enjoys playing dirty ugly tricks on me.

Anytime he'll text you saying "Hey babe I'm really sorry but I can't do tonight" you over think it. You honestly freak out on the inside and the constant thought is "What didn't I do correctly?" "Am I good enough?"

You want to text them and ask them. Once you've typed it out, suddenly you fear you're overreacting and that they won't like it. That they'll loose interest in you.

It's currently happening to me. I've been talking to this one guy for about a week and a half, went on two dates, and I can honestly say he's too damn good for me. I've never been able to say I'm legitimately happy with a person. It comes easy and that scares me. And right now, I want to text him and ask if I did anything wrong. Why said person did this or that and if it's because they didn't want to be around me. I can truly say it's been hard as hell for me not to actually say words to them.

Now you may ask why I don't just go for it. Get it off my chest. Well, I'm afraid of scaring him away with my anxiety.

Anxiety is a little bitch and I freaking hate it. Overreacting to small things, getting scared of loosing someone. I wish I could say that this wasn't happening as I am writing these words, but truth is, as I'm writing I'm in the middle of an anxiety attack because I'm over thinking yet again.

Now am I going to tell him any of this? Absolutely not. Unless said person asks.

To the girl having a panic attack over a text saying "I can't make it" My dear it's okay. I've been reassured and if he cares he will show it.

Allow yourself to be honest with him. He needs to know what you're dealing with and might even be able to help if you let him.

Let yourself be happy with someone who treats you well.


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