When my parents began dating, life was, admittedly, more simple. The person you dated in high school would more than likely be your husband, and your first date was to a drive in movie or the local diner to get a milkshake. You didn't have to worry about your guy "liking" another girl's picture, or making the relationship "Facebook official", and you certainly wouldn't have to concern yourself with whether you're "talking" or actually dating.
So why are we worried about that now?
In 2018, we don't date. In my few relationships that have gone horribly wrong, I've gathered that instead of dating (actually going on dates, being face-to-face and talking) we text whenever we get a free moment. A quick, "I love you" here, and a, "Hope you had a good day" there.
But that's better, right? We're better off dating now than we would have been in 1970, being forced to go out and truly date. Technology has simplified everything. Why take your girlfriend on a date when you can text her that you love her instead?
In 2018, we don't get to know anyone. We don't know their passions and their dreams. But, we swiped right, so that has to be enough. That's all the effort we need.
In 2018, we don't do dinner and a movie. We Netflix and chill. But that's so much better.
In 2018, it's over when it's not Facebook official. Everyone knows, almost instantly. It's better that way. They deserve to know.
In 2018, if we meet the family, we're a friend and that's all. But that's okay, right? Who wants to be introduced as the girlfriend? Why would we want someone who is proud to have us? How old-fashioned.
In 2018, we value Snapchat streaks as a form of flattery. Who needs flowers and being called beautiful when there's an Emoji next to our name?
Dating has changed, but our standards have lowered. What we think of as "enough" from our significant other has changed drastically from what was expected years ago.
Let's remember what we deserve. Dating in 2018 does not, and will not, cover it.
Dating in 2018 isn't dating at all.