As I've become newly single and have re-entered the dating scene, I have quickly learned that people suck.
I truly believe that I was raised differently because I don't have a problem with being completely upfront and honest with a person, even if it's with someone I just met. I am a person that has a hard shell. It's hard to get to me and if you do it's bad.
I'm not one to let boys bother me, but I'd rather be in a miserable relationship than being confused and overthinking because you're not getting the energy back that you're putting into a person or getting what you expected out of them. I expect people to follow through with plans if they make them with me and I expect people to give attention back after having a night of really good conversations. I don't get how people can show you a good side of them and then all of a sudden they just drop you. I don't get how someone can be so heartless and cold.
Sadly this doesn't just happen with boys, people we call our "friends" can be the same way.
I know it's not just me when I say that if you don't want to hang out then just say so. If you just want to be friends, then let that be known. If you feel a vibe and like someone then be upfront about it. I think so many of us have been hurt by a significant other or friend or even family member that it's so hard for many of us to be open and honest with someone we care about or could potentially care about.
We are all trying to dodge getting hurt that we end up hurting people instead.
I think a lot of times we don't even know we're doing it. We think that if we're ignoring people or leaving things unsaid, then there can't be any damage done. When really silence can be the loudest action. The saying actions speak louder than words really remains true in situations like these.
So, to everyone out there playing with others' minds and hearts, just stop. Stop leaving people on read, stop playing mind games, stop hurting people. Start being open and honest, start matching others energy, start being vulnerable. Life is too short to play games and to not put yourself out there. You're going to end up saving yourself and the other person a lot of time and effort if you're just honest about your intentions.