Being in college for a few months, I can see that there is a very different view on dating than in high school.

In high school, dating is is the norm, while in college, hook ups are more prevalent.

It’s a sad society we live in. We see things like Tinder, Bumble and Grindr as a new way to meet people, and maybe that’s true. The reality is, however, is that behind these apps is a stigma that after the initial meet up, there is always the expectation of sex afterwards.

I’m not going to pretend I’ve never partaken in these activities, because I have. I was invited to a party a few minutes after I began talking to this boy, went, got drunk and ended up hooking up with one of his roommates. I was told it was a running joke among everyone who live with him, because I was supposed to be the one he hooked up with. I’m actually friends with everyone that was at the party today, but the fact that he probably only invited me to get in my pants kind of annoys me.

Another time I matched with someone on Tinder and him and I clicked almost instantly. We talked basically all night, and since he went to the same college as me, we made plans to meet the next day. Keep in mind, we never made real plans to have sex, and it seemed he really was interested in me as a person. We ended up hooking up within that time, and he hasn’t talked to me since.

I’m not saying these apps are all bad, because they aren’t. I recently met someone who proved to me that there are some good people out there. Although we did end up having sex the first day we met, him and I still talk to this day. There’s this unspoken contract between us, and although he won’t admit it, I know he genuinely cares about me as a person. He’s been a very good listener and a huge support system recently, and I am glad to have met him.

My main point here is that college doesn’t really have the whole dating scene. Obviously there is some dating, and I applaud those people who find someone they want to get to know. Dating in college is hard so I do understand the hookup culture that we live in today.

For those who are actively looking for that special person in college, I know it may be frustrating, but don’t give up on love. I recommend joining clubs and getting to know people in your classes, because I feel that you won’t find what you're looking for on apps such as Tinder or Bumble.