Last week I wrote an article about taking risks and how you should really take them. This week I'm going to apply some of the key ideas mentioned in that article and apply it to address common relationship/dating problems that I've seen in the past with me and some of my friends.
"We're good friends and I don't want to ruin that because what if he/she doesn't feel the same way and things will be awkward if I tell him/her how I feel?"
You never know if you don't try. If you guys truly are good friends, then you should have nothing to be worried about. Good friends wouldn't let something like this get in the way of their friendship. It's good to be worried that you would lose your friendship. It means that you value it a lot. However, it's not logical that you're worried about it. If you guys were good friends to being with, then you guys will work it out and over time, all the issues will be resolved. If you guys lost your friendship over something like one having feelings for the other, then, I don't mean to be harsh, but either you guys probably weren't very good friends to begin with or you just didn't care about it enough to fight for it. Problems will arise in every relationship and that includes friendships. If you don't fight for your friend back, then you won't get your friend back. If you truly value the friendship, then don't let it slip away.
"What if we don't work out and we can't remain friends?"
Well what if you guys do work out? This is something you'll just have to trust yourself and have faith in your judgement. You have to believe that even if it doesn't work out, trying it out and taking the shot was worth it. You have to believe that the good will outweigh the bad and you will grow from the relationship regardless of what happens.
"I don't want to cry for like a whole week because I got rejected after taking the shot"
Yes you could cry for one whole week. But you'll only cry for one whole week. A week at the time may seem like an unbearable amount of time for pain, but you will get through it. And as soon as you do, you'll probably feel the need to do something with your life, like you need a change. That's good. Follow your instincts and take on the change. Focus on yourself and improve yourself. A year from then, you could look back on the one week of pain and say that it's one of the best things that has happened to you. The pain you felt was temporary but the improvements you've made to who you are will last a lifetime.
"What if he/she says no?"
What if he/she says yes? You're going to lose them if you never ask anyways. Life is short and it doesn't allow room for hesitation. Just don't over think it and take the shot. If they say no, no big deal you move on. If they say yes, good for you.
All the situations you can come up with are endless. The general advice here is to just take every shot because you will miss it if you don't take it. The important part about this is just make sure that you're strong enough to take the pain and agony if you miss it. Learn from every missed shot. Grow from every relationship. Improve yourself from every mistake. As long as you become a better person, even slightly, or you learned something from taking the shot, the shot will always be worth it.
"The good times that made us laugh outweigh the bad." - Boyz II Men
