Stop Damaging Others Just Because You Are Damaged

Stop Damaging Others Just Because You Are Damaged

Sometimes you are the toxic one.

It is time to recognize that you cannot traumatize anyone else because you have been traumatized. Remember that when you are losing everyone around you, it might actually be you who has the problem. At some point, you are going to have to stop blaming everyone but yourself. It is time to draw the line between letting your hurt control you and you excuse yourself because you are “being yourself.” You are not your trauma, your hurt, your mental illness, or the baggage you carry. It is time to stop ruining everything in your life because you are ruined.

Expressing your hurt, trauma, and mental illness in ways that hurts others is not the correct way to heal yourself. You will never heal, regardless of what you tell yourself, if you express yourself in unhealthy ways. People are going to come into your life and try to meet you halfway, but you cannot force them to walk the whole distance to get where you are. Sometimes it takes you sucking up all that you have been through and opening up to realize that not everyone is going to hurt you. Not everyone is going to let you down. You cannot project your hurt onto anyone else and expect them to want to understand, to help you, or to rationalize with you.

Being hurt takes more than realizing you are hurt. Being depressed takes more than realizing you are depressed. Being anxious takes more than realizing you are anxious. Dealing with yourself is knowing yourself. Understanding the sources, understanding your triggers, understanding who in your life helps and hurts, and understanding that sometimes you have to remove yourself from loved ones’ lives because they make the trauma worse.

You are responsible for your hurt and you have to own up to that. You are responsible for how much you let hurt control your life and everything around it. You are responsible for what you say and how you express your hurt. As much as no one wants to hear that, you are responsible. You are responsible for those who are in your life, and yes, that includes family members. Do not let circumstantial relationships make you believe that you have no choice. You deserve to be happy and you are responsible for that. You are responsible for all of the problems in your life, regardless of who causes them. If someone else is bringing you pain, let them go. You are allowed to get rid of people and things that destroy you, with no apology. But you cannot let go of everyone thinking that they are the problem when in actuality, it is you that is the problem.

There is only so long you can be a victim to your pain and suffering. You have to stop holding everyone around you accountable and start holding yourself accountable. You have to put your pride to the side and own up to what you are doing. When you are left with no one in your life, who are you going to blame? It is not easy and I do not say this lightly. We have all been there but it takes knowing who you are and what you are doing to get yourself out of it. Self-awareness is the first step to the long process of healing yourself and you have to be ready.

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12 Things Young Republicans Are Tired Of Hearing

A dozen myths about conservatism and what the real deal is.


As a college student, I know a lot of people my age consider themselves very liberal. It's a rare occasion when you meet another conservative on campus. Being a young Republican, there are several negative assumptions that come along with that.

Here is a list of 12 things we're all tired of hearing.

1. "You're only a Republican because your parents are."

Yes, my parents are both Republican and that's where my morals and beliefs were first taught, but I am my own person. I have done my own research and decided that my views side with the Republican Party. There are several things that even my parents and I disagree on. I wouldn't choose to be a Democrat just so I could be different.

2. "I bet you support Trump."

While many Republicans my age are supporting Trump, that doesn't mean we all are. We're entitled to our personal opinions and assuming we're all the same is incorrect. Just because you are a Republican doesn't mean you automatically support Trump.

3. "You're racist, sexist, etc."

This couldn't be farther from the truth. There are so many Republicans that come from unique racial and cultural backgrounds, both genders included. Take Marco Rubio, Condoleezza Rice, Ben Carson, and Bobby Jindal. These are just a few of the many, many examples.

4. "You're uneducated about the issues."

Just because someone has a different opinion than you doesn't mean they're wrong or uninformed.

5. "You're only a Republican because you're rich."

I am by no means rich. Did my parents have enough money to support their family? Yes, and I'm very blessed for that. However, they didn't pay for everything. As for college, I worked my butt off to get scholarships and opportunities to succeed. I was taught at a very young age that money requires work and things aren't just handed to you. That's exactly the reason why I strongly support capitalism.

6. "Why don't you want free college?"

NOTHING IS FREE. Would free college be awesome? Absolutely! However, I do not believe it's fair to tax working people to pay for it. If you want something, work for it.

7. "The GOP is a bunch of old, white men."

This is so untrue. I mean take a look at all the well-known conservatives in America. Lauren Conrad, Britney Spears, Carrie Underwood, Carly Fiorina, Condoleezza Rice, Megyn Kelly, Elizabeth Hasselbeck, and so many more. Point proven.

8. "You're close-minded."

This is the most common and most annoying. Conservative does not equal close-minded. I love hearing about different ideas and opinions.

9. "You hate immigrants."

I personally feel like our immigration system is broken and needs to be changed so it's more accessible to become an American citizen. However, I don't believe those here illegally should receive taxpayer benefits. I'm all for immigration as long as it's done legally.

10. "You don't support women's rights."

Usually, this is brought up when talking about abortion. What about the rights of the unborn child? It's not just about one person's rights at that point.

11. "You should just #FeelTheBern."

#NO. I do not support socialism.

12. "You only hear the Fox News version."

Fox News is my favorite choice of news programs, but I also enjoy hearing the different views on CNN, NBC, Huffington Post, etc.

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21 Tweets About Anti-Vax Children That Will Make Parents Get Their Kids Vaccinated ASAP

Vaccinate your kids. Period.


I have compiled 21 tweets about anti-vaccination parents and their children that did not only make me laugh, but made me further enforce my belief that parents need to vaccinate their kids.

These tweets are pretty dark, to be honest, but once you think about the situation at hand, sometimes it is best to approach it in a funny way so you can get your point across.

You have been warned.

These tweets may be funny, but the situation is not funny. Do your research and help people around you not get sick by vaccinating your kids.






















(and probably the most important tweet of all).

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