4 Signs You're The Dad Of Your Friend Group

4 Signs You're The Dad Of Your Friend Group

Papa didn't raise no fool when it comes to you.
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Everyone is always talking about being the mom of the group, but let's not forget about the dads. We all have that one friend in your group that knows how to fix things and isn't afraid to kill any sort of critter that might appear in your home. It’s a well-known fact that I am that friend in my group. Many times, I have been called on to do things that your dad typically does when you're in the comfort of your own home. Here’s how you can tell if you're the “dad” of your gal squad as well.

1. You're Mrs. Fix It

If there’s a handyman (or should I say handywoman) problem, your friends call on you to help them out. Whether it’s fixing someone's bed or figuring out how to get a door unhinged, you’re the one they call. You might not know what all the tools in your toolbox are called, but it doesn’t mean you don't know how to get sh*t done with them.

2. No one needs AAA when you're around

Sure, you might not be able to build up a full engine or anything, but if there is some sort of car trouble, you seem to know what will help. Your friends might call on you to replace their coolant or perhaps ask your opinion on why their car is making a specific noise. Whenever this happens, you mentally thank your dad for teaching you how to do these tasks or acknowledge that the show Top Gear has taught you more than you thought.

3. You're totally cool about critters

You're pretty much able to do away with any sort of bug that might be infesting your home. No points will be deducted if you can’t deal with spiders though because let’s be real, they're the worst. If you're ever hanging out with your pals and there's a critter crawling up a wall or chilling on your friend's arm, you keep your cool and get that thing on a paper towel. No matter if it’s a cockroach in your living room or wasps in your friend's gas tank, you can always save the day.

4. You're pretty much a certified mechanic

If you're really the dad of the group, you do well under pressure, and when things need to be fixed, your friends can always turn to you. If one of your friends has bike trouble, you're not going to let her take it to the bike store because you know you can fix it yourself. Not to worry: you’ll have that bike chain fixed in no time.

If you can do all of these things, you're most likely the dad of your group! Congrats. With that title there comes a lot of responsibility, but I’m sure you can handle it. After all, Papa didn't raise no fool when it comes to you.

Big shout out to Mr. Jan for teaching me all the things I never knew I would need to know. You rock.

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A Letter To The Grandpas Who Left Far Too Soon

The thoughts of a girl who lost both of her grandpas too early.
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Dear Grandpa,

As I get older, my memories are starting to fade. I try to cling to every last bit of memory that I have of you. There are certain memories that have stuck well in my brain, and I probably will never forget them, at least I hope I don't. I remember your smile and your laugh. I can still remember how your voice sounded. I never want to forget that. I catch myself closing my eyes to try to remember it, playing your voice over and over in my head so that I can ingrain it in my memory.

I always thought you were invincible, incapable of leaving me. You were so young, and it caught us all by surprise. You were supposed to grow old, die of old age. You were not supposed to be taken away so soon. You were supposed to see me graduate high school and college, get married to the love my life, be there when my kids are born, and never ever leave.

My heart was broken when I heard the news. I don't think I had experienced a pain to that level in my entire life. At first, I was in denial, numb to the thought that you were gone. It wasn't until Thanksgiving, then Christmas, that I realized you weren't coming back. Holidays are not the same anymore. In fact, I almost dread them. They don't have that happy cheer in the air like they did when you were alive. There is a sadness that hangs in the air because we are all thinking silently how we wished you were there. I hope when I am older and have kids that some of that holiday spirit comes back.

You know what broke my heart the most though? It was seeing your child, my parent, cry uncontrollably. I watched them lose their dad, and I saw the pain that it caused. It scared me, Grandpa, because I don't ever want to lose them like how they lost you. I can't imagine a day without my mom or dad. I still see the pain that it causes and how it doesn't go away. There are good days and there are bad days. I always get upset when I see how close people are to their grandparents and that they get to see them all the time. I hope they realize how lucky they are and that they never take it for granted. I wish I could have seen you more so that I could have more memories to remember you by.

I know though that you are watching over me. That is where I find comfort in the loss. I know that one day I will get to see you again, and I can't wait for it. I hope I have made you proud. I hope that all that I have accomplished and will accomplish makes you smile from ear to ear. I hope that the person I marry is someone you would approve of. And I hope that my kids get more time with their grandpa than I did because the amount I got wasn't fair.

I want to say thank you for raising your child to be the best parent ever because they will one day be the best grandparent ever. Just like you.

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Don't Limit Yourself, Have As Many Best Friends As You Want

Why should you only have just one best friend?

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When you're little, you have as many friends as you possibly can. There's that one friend that stands out above all the rest, though your best friend.

As we grow up, it seems almost forced that we only have one best friend. You are allowed to have a bunch of friends and hang out with as many people as you want, but it is pretty normal to have just one or two best friends. These may still be the same friends you had when you were in preschool or elementary school, or they may be new friends you've met as you've grown. Whatever the case, you can feel like you're limited to the amount of "best friends" you are allowed to have.

At least, I always did.

I always had one for sure best friend growing up. Now, the person filling that role has changed many times. Within the past few years though, I have realized that my group of close friends is more than that. We're not just "close friends," they're really my best friends.

Coming to college and talking about my friends back home, I have used the term "my best friend" a lot. To the point where my new friends say "you say that about everyone." It's made me wonder though, does the term lose meaning the more I say it?

Urban Dictionary defines "best friends" like this:

"a best friend is the one person in the world you know will always be there. they don't care about your flaws and take you for who you are."

Notice how it says "the one person." I agree with what it says that you know they will always be there. However, I do not agree that it is one specific person. I grow attached to people and I am a very relationship oriented person. So knowing that I have a base of good, solid friends who have my back no matter what is very important to me. Knowing that I have people who are always going to be there and who don't care about my flaws is crucial.

It is so easy for me to beat myself up, so I need to surround myself with people who will love me as I am.

When I find people like that and I actually let them into my life, I begin to define them as my best friends. They are the friends who make me laugh until my sides hurt, who genuinely want to spend time with me and me with them, and those who I can trust with my deepest, darkest thoughts. And honestly, that happens to be more than one person.

A best friend, to me, is someone I can call when I'm crying. Someone I can ask for advice about what to say to a guy. Someone I can make ugly faces with and then laugh about them.

A best friend is someone who is true, uplifting and makes me feel good about myself.

Now, don't get me wrong. I obviously have one friend that I am closer to than all the rest. But that doesn't make any of my other "best friends" any less of my best friends. I have ones that I talk to every day and ones that I don't talk to for months at a time. That doesn't mean they're not still my best friend.

It has taken a long time for me to get out of toxic friendships and realize my worth. I have finally gotten to the point where I know how I deserve to be treated as a friend and an individual. Yet, I also have so much love to give that I want to share it with those who make me feel good.

So I have more than one best friend. Heck, I probably have more than five. Sue me. I am going to surround myself with those who make me smile on the inside and the out. Those who want to get to know me more and make an effort, just like the effort I'm making with them. And if I happen to call them my best friends along the way, that's none of your business.

In fact, if you happen to hear me call one person and then three more right after them my best friend, mind yo business.

I'm going to have as many best friends as I want I refuse to let society restrict me to only one.

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