To The Dad Who Deserves More Than An Instagram Post

To The Dad Who Deserves More Than An Instagram Post

This one's for you.


I know you don't have Instagram, so let me recap. On Father's Day, everyone (myself included) shares photos of them and their dads, telling them how amazing they are and thanking them for all that they do. It is a day flooded with love and appreciation. Offline, cookouts and gifts and days on the boat take place, allowing dads everywhere to feel like today is their day. A day of love, a day of appreciation, a day of dad.

Every year, I post my photo. I write a caption about how great you are, how much I love you. And every year I wonder... Does he know this? Do I show it? Or am I just following the trends? Because sometimes I think that I show everyone else that I love you on Father's Day, and may forget to include you in that.

Maybe it is because Father's Day is nothing new. When you have a dad as incredible as you, it is hard to not show love and appreciation every day. Sometimes, the easiest way to say "I love you" isn't with words. You showed me time and time again when you came to my games after a full day of work, ready and cheering me on. You showed me when you dropped everything to come up to my college just to spend some time with me. You show me every day when you go to work at a place you'd rather not be in order to provide for us and give us the most amazing life you can. Even when you don't say it, those things show me you love me more than I'm even able to imagine.

I try to show how much I love you, too. Maybe it isn't as easy to see, but it's there. When I sit at the counter recounting my day to you, when we banter back and forth until mom says "would you guys please stop?", when I can hardly wait for you to get home or answer your phone so I can give you good news... Even if I don't say it, those things are an attempt to show how much I love and appreciate you.

One day dedicated to you can't properly show how thankful I am for spending every second of your limited time not working with our family. One day dedicated to you can't properly show how appreciative I am for every game you came to and practice you facilitated. One day dedicated to you can never and will never be able to show you how much I love you and how impossibly thankful I am that you're my dad.

But maybe, one lifetime can. Hopefully, one lifetime can. 365 days every year of telling you my great news and watching TV in the living room with you until you fall asleep and start snoring. Of thinking of you and trying to make me proud in all that I do. And maybe just one day of posting a photo on social media to tell everyone else just how lucky I am.

You are my dad, you are my coach and you are my friend. And while you only get one day to be celebrated, know that you deserve it 356 days of the year.


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My Parents Don't 'Bankroll' Me, They Just Want Me To Focus On School

Just like you wouldn't apologize for getting a scholarship, I won’t apologize for getting my funding from my parents.

Just because my parents put money in my bank account doesn't make me "spoiled."

It doesn't mean that I don't have a work ethic or that I don't appreciate the hard-earned dollar. I appreciate the little things and I appreciate everything that my parents do for me. Just like you wouldn't apologize for getting a scholarship, I won’t apologize for getting my funding from my parents.

My whole life, the importance of hard work has been drilled into me. However, in this stage in my life, that hard work is getting my education. Going to school full time is work enough. Just because I don't hold a job doesn't mean that I don't know what hard work means.

My parents don't "love me more" because they help me out with some finances. They don't look at me and think that I'm not capable of working hard so they better provide for me. On the contrary, they see how hard I have to work in school and they want to make sure I'm comfortable while putting all of my focus on getting an education that will help me get settled in the hard-working career world.

My parents don't "bankroll" me, they just want me to focus on school and school alone. As my dad always tells me, "Your job is school and your education is your first priority - everything else comes after."

That's how I've been raised and it hasn't made me spoiled - maybe it's just made othe people bitter.

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Your Success Is Not Your Own

It's time to admit you aren't alone in this thing we call life.

I have a challenge for you.

First, sit down and take a minute to think about everything your parents have done for you throughout your life. Think about every dinner they ever made for you, and every dinner you made for yourself with the food they bought and stocked your home with. Think about every extra curricular activity they showed up for, and everyone they had to miss to help pay for your equipment for that activity. Think about the times that you were sick and they provided you with medicine and a warm bed to get better, or took you to the doctor when you weren’t getting better. Think about the homework assignments that they spent hours helping you with, and the ones they helped you with in 30 seconds just by answering a single question. Think about the money they gave you for lunches, the lunches they packed for you, and the food they provided so that you could pack your own lunches. Think about the times you called them because you forgot your gym clothes and they brought them into school for you so that you wouldn’t get a zero for participation, and think about the times they couldn’t bring the clothes in for you because they were at work, striving to earn enough to buy you those gym clothes in the first place. Think about those times when you fought with them and told them that you hated them, and remember that they kept on loving you anyway.

For everything your parents did for you when you were little there are a million ways they have helped you in your adult life. Whether you think that your parents have nothing to do with the success you’ve achieved or you attribute every accomplished milestone to their influence in your life it’s important to remember that you wouldn’t be where you are, or who you are, today without them.

Now that you’ve thought about a few ways that your parents have influenced your past and helped mold you into your present self, I’d like you to think about the ways they are still currently influencing you. What are your parents still doing for you that is significantly improving your daily life? Are they providing you with a place to live while you finish out school or find a job that you can support yourself on? Are they inviting you to their social gatherings and introducing you to their network to help you grow your own? Are they giving you advice on what to do about the newest problem you’re encountering? Are they offering free babysitting so that your paycheck can go towards supporting your own family in other ways? Are they providing you with the kind of unconditional emotional support that only a parent can? Are they answering the phone (or calling you back) and answering the questions you’re asking with the answers you need to hear? Are they offering to help even while you’re pushing them away?

If your parents are still in your life, you aren’t doing life on your own. Like a tree, you may grow and flourish and branch out and blossom, but you wouldn’t be standing today if it weren’t for your roots.

Are you ready for your challenge? - Get up, call your parents, and thank them... for everything.

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