College has forced me to think about what I want. But recently, the spring fever epidemic has pushed me even further. What do I want out of life, besides a relationship?

I was told college would be my place. The place where I will have fun, spread my wings, but mostly find love and find a plethora of men who wanted me. Well, so far college has panned out to be everything but a gaggle of dates and flings.

If you are like me, you find yourself sitting and watching your best friends adventure through love and want that same love for yourself. But also, you find yourself idealizing love.

It's hard not to.

From Nathan and Haley, Hardin and Tessa, Blair and Chuck, to all Nicholas Sparks; movies, TV shows, and novels all contribute in our head to how love and seeing potential in someone is supposed to be. Unfortunately, it seems to be all those things and none at the same time. I find myself thinking a lot about love and everything I want from it.

There is nothing wrong with thinking about love, but don’t get consumed by it. It is easy to be overwhelmed by the idea of the love God has in store for you. I am overwhelmed and consumed by the idea of love, the immensity of it, but also the thoughts that it will fix things.

Because of this, I asked myself: What do you want out life, besides a relationship?

I challenge YOU to create a list of all the things you want out of life -- besides a relationship.

Here is mine:

1. A successful career, but most importantly to love my job
2. To be there for my family and friends
3. To travel the world
4. To never be too afraid to take a chance or try something new
5. To always understand the “privilege in mattering to someone”
6. To love the little things and not take them for granted
7. To keep finding ways to express myself
8. To be vulnerable and allow friends to help me through the hard times
9. To continually realize happiness is a mood
10. To love people, myself, and God

You might wonder how this is different from a bucket list. Often times people are okay if their bucket list doesn't come to fruition, however, this list is something I’m not okay with it not coming true.

What does yours look like? It can be big or small. Just know that finding love is simply another part of the mess that is life. It’s okay to be single and love the idea of love, but make sure it doesn’t rule your life because chances are if “you [don’t] stop looking up at the sky, one of these days you’ll look back down and see that you floated away, too.”