Confessions From A Perfectionist: 6 Ways To Calm Yourself

Confessions From A Perfectionist: 6 Ways To Calm Yourself

Breathe in.... Breathe Out.
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Dear You,

You had a hard week. Nothing wanted to go the way you wanted. You screwed up on the simple things. And you took it out on yourself. Hard. You suddenly felt like the world was pretty much crumbling right in front of you. You're beating yourself up for the little things. It's micro, however in your mind it's more macro. You start wondering.... Is this even worth it anymore.

I am the one to say, yes it is. The screw ups are always small. Very rarely are they huge. Most of the time they are so small. And easy fixes. However that's not the case for you and I. For us, these small issues, can feel like the world is ending. And it sucks. I know for me, I can't really really panicacy. I start freaking out. I hold my breath. I stop thinking clearly because my mind starts telling me I'm not good enough to do whatever it is I should be doing.

I'm speaking from experience. Aka, earlier this week. The week started out awful. I was in an immense amount of pain. I quit eating because I stepped on the scale and saw I had gained rather than lost weight, because you know that's the logical thing to do (sarcasm fully intended). And I screwed up on two reservations, I work for a hotel and for me that's a huge issue. Even though, later on, my manager informed me, it was a very easy fix and that I need to just breathe.

Just breathe. Seems to be a constant. I take major pride in my work. If you're into any zodiacs, your sign can honestly tell a lot about you without you saying anything. A coworker of mine told me that, which then made me want to research it more. I'm a Capricorn. We are all about hard work. We take major pride in our work, and we want it to be near perfect. As I read on I'm thinking to myself, "this makes so much sense." It explained my psycho attitude when it comes to being the best at what I do and why I go crazy when I'm not at work.

Well, there are a few ways to bring yourself back down;

1. Breathe.

That's right. Inhale.... Exhale.... So simple, yet so hard to do when your mind is racing at about 90 miles an hour. It stops your heart from racing, and it stops you from sending yourself into a downward spiral of panic attacks. Which by the way suck so much. Deep breathing exercises are a really good thing to take up.

2. Meditate.

Believe it or not, meditation is the absolute best way to calm the soul and relax the mind. Doesn't matter how you meditate, just matters that you do it. Meditation helps clear away any unwanted thoughts and feelings. I know for me, my church offers beautiful healing meditative services every Sunday night, it's the absolute best way to start my week. I start with a clear mind and a positive outlook on the week.

3. Music.

Music is a definite way to heal your mind. Without music, I know personally, I wouldn't be here right now. The one thing I do through any anxiety, panic, or mood attack, is listen to contemporary christian music. There's a specific band that helps me. Hillsong United. Their music just really speaks to me when I'm feeling really down.

4. Write.

Writing does a lot for a chaotic mind. It helps put those thoughts you can't really verbalize into words. It's one thing my therapist taught me to do, and now, I write all the time. Doesn't matter my mood, I'll continuously write. About literally anything. And it's so therapeutic.

5. Find something that calms you.

Which could truly be anything. For me, if I'm anxious at work, I find folding key holders soothing. Mainly because I'm working with my hands and it keeps me very occupied. I've had nights, where I've folded every single key holder in the hotel. It's soothing. Weird, but soothing.

6. Work Out.

This is one that I used to do every time I felt myself feeling "off" and man I was in damn good shape. It's a major stress relief, plus it's so good for you.


So now you know. Things that can help put your mind at ease. Relax the mind. Sooth the soul, because your mental psyche is so important. And don't be afraid to relax!

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30 Things I'd Rather Be Than 'Pretty'

Because "pretty" is so overrated.
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Nowadays, we put so much emphasis on our looks. We focus so much on the outside that we forget to really focus on what matters. I was inspired by a list that I found online of "Things I Would Rather Be Called Instead Of Pretty," so I made my own version. Here is a list of things that I would rather be than "pretty."

1. Captivating

I want one glance at me to completely steal your breath away.

2. Magnetic

I want people to feel drawn to me. I want something to be different about me that people recognize at first glance.

3. Raw

I want to be real. Vulnerable. Completely, genuinely myself.

4. Intoxicating

..and I want you addicted.

5. Humble

I want to recognize my abilities, but not be boastful or proud.

6. Exemplary

I want to stand out.

7. Loyal

I want to pride myself on sticking out the storm.

8. Fascinating

I want you to be hanging on every word I say.

9. Empathetic

I want to be able to feel your pain, so that I can help you heal.

10. Vivacious

I want to be the life of the party.

11. Reckless

I want to be crazy. Thrilling. Unpredictable. I want to keep you guessing, keep your heart pounding, and your blood rushing.

12. Philanthropic

I want to give.

13. Philosophical

I want to ask the tough questions that get you thinking about the purpose of our beating hearts.

14. Loving

When my name is spoken, I want my tenderness to come to mind.

15. Quaintrelle

I want my passion to ooze out of me.

16. Belesprit

I want to be quick. Witty. Always on my toes.

17. Conscientious

I want to always be thinking of others.

18. Passionate

...and I want people to know what my passions are.

19. Alluring

I want to be a woman who draws people in.

20. Kind

Simply put, I want to be pleasant and kind.

21. Selcouth

Even if you've known me your whole life, I want strange, yet marvelous. Rare and wondrous.

22. Pierian

From the way I move to the way I speak, I want to be poetic.

23. Esoteric

Do not mistake this. I do not want to be misunderstood. But rather I'd like to keep my circle small and close. I don't want to be an average, everyday person.

24. Authentic

I don't want anyone to ever question whether I am being genuine or telling the truth.

25. Novaturient

..about my own life. I never want to settle for good enough. Instead I always want to seek to make a positive change.

26. Observant

I want to take all of life in.

27. Peart

I want to be honestly in good spirits at all times.

28. Romantic

Sure, I want to be a little old school in this sense.

29. Elysian

I want to give you the same feeling that you get in paradise.

30. Curious

And I never want to stop searching for answers.
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For Camille, With Love

To my godmother, my second mom, my rooted confidence, my support

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First grade, March. It was my first birthday without my mom. You through a huge party for me, a sleepover with friends from school. It included dress up games and making pizza and Disney trivia. You, along with help from my grandma, threw me the best birthday party a 7-year-old could possibly want.

During elementary school, I carpooled with you and a few of the neighborhood kids. I was always the last one to be dropped off, sometimes you would sneak a donut for me. Living next door to you was a blessing. You helped me with everything. In second grade, you helped me rehearse lines for history day so I could get extra credit. In 4th grade, you helped me build my California mission.

You and your sister came out to my 6th grade "graduation". You bought me balloons and made me feel as if moving onto middle school was the coolest thing in the entire world.

While you moved away from next door, you were a constant in my life. Going to Ruby's Diner for my birthday, seeing movies at the Irvine Spectrum and just hanging out, I saw you all the time. During these times, you told me about all of the silly things you did with my mom and dad, how my mom was your best friend. I couldn't have had a greater godmother.

In middle school, you pushed me to do my best and to enroll in honors. You helped me through puberty and the awkward stages of being a woman.

Every single time I saw you, it would light up my entire day, my week. You were more than my godmother, you were my second mom. You understood things that my grandma didn't.

When you married John, you included me in your wedding. I still have that picture of you, Jessica, Aaron and myself on my wall at college. I was so happy for you.

Freshmen year of high school, you told me to do my best. I did my best because of you. When my grandma passed away that year, your shoulder was the one I wanted to cry on.

You were there when I needed to escape home. You understood me when I thought no one would. You helped me learn to drive, letting me drive all the way from San Clemente to Orange.

When I was applying to colleges, you encouraged me to spread my wings and fly. You told me I should explore, get out of California. I wanted to study in London, you told me to do it. That's why, when I study abroad this Spring in London, I will do it for you.

When I had gotten into UWT, you told me to go there. I did and here I am, succeeding and living my best in Tacoma. I do it for you, because of you.

When I graduated high school and I was able to deliver a speech during our baccalaureate, you cheered me on. You recorded it for me, so I could show people who weren't able to make it to the ceremony. You were one of the few people able to come to my actual graduation. You helped me celebrate the accomplishments and awards from my hard work.

When your cancer came back, I was so worried. I was afraid for you, I was afraid of what I would do without the support you had always given me. When I was in Rome, I went to the Vatican and had gotten a Cross with a purple gem in the middle blessed by the Pope to help you with your treatments. It was something from me and a little bit of my mom in the necklace, the gem.

Now, sitting so far from you away at college just like you wanted me to. I miss you. I wish I was there to say goodbye.

I'll travel the world for you, write lots of stories and books for you, I will live life to the fullest for you.

You are another angel taken too early in life. Please say hello to my parents and grandma in Heaven for me.

Lots of love,

Haiden

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