Love Your Friends Because, Without Them, We Are Without Purpose

Love Your Friends Because, Without Them, We Are Without Purpose

Despite finals week, make sure to take care of your friends.

It’s near the end of the semester, and with it comes a plethora of wild emotions downpouring like a summer thunderstorm—excitement for the summer, sadness for our graduating Seawolves, anxiety for what the future holds. A great many of us are preparing for our finals, which will inevitably overwhelm us and consume nearly all of our time. Despite that, however, we (first and foremost myself) should do our best to keep ourselves healthy and remember one critical piece of information that we may already know, but take to heart a little more so now.

Take care of your friends.

Take care of your friends when they’re calling you to just talk about some issue in their lives that you knew nothing about beforehand because they feel like they can trust you with that information. Take care of your friends when their anxiety takes over and they feel like nothing they do or ever can do will be able to dispel the doubt that clouds their self-confidence.

Take care of your friends when they lose their last shred of bravado and break down their walls to show you who they are after they’ve lost any semblance of control in their lives because you might be the rope that they cling to stay afloat.

Take care of your friends and love your friends despite the demands of finals and the pressure to succeed, because the mental health of the ones you love the most is far more important than some arbitrary grade in the pursuit of academia.

Love your friends, because without them we are without purpose. Love your friends, because they love you just the same.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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How Staying At Home During College Affected My Friendships

The impacts that leaving high school has on friendships.


Instead of going away for college, I stayed home. I didn't think much of it in the beginning, but as time went on, I realized that the decision of me staying home was going to affect me much more than I anticipated.

At first, I thought I could make it work, still visiting friends in college every weekend, texting everyone, and Snapchatting. It wasn't too hard to keep in contact with high school friends because high school was so fresh in our minds. The longer I was home, the more friends my high school friends started to make.

They'd be out partying every night with all these new people and posting about them, and I started to feel like I was being replaced. It was sad because these friends who I've been friends with for at least five years are now best friends with other people. The only reason why was because I was at home. It sucks.

At first, I was really bothered by the fact that my friendships were starting to get more distant as time went on. But then, I started to get used to the feeling and facing the reality that you won't always stay friends with people throughout your whole life.

Realizing that some friends aren't always meant to be your friend forever was a hard adjustment for me to make. I always grew up with the same group of friends. We're all close with each other and close with each other's parents. In my case, everything got more awkward the longer we were out of high school.

We had to pretend to seem like it wasn't awkward meeting up for the first time in months... when it was. It was definitely a hard thing to realize, but it's a good thing that there are a lot of people in the world to be friends with.

I know that I'll always have other people to be friends with in life, so I try not to sweat the little things. Hang in there if you're going through the same thing, I know it's hard.

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