To The Struggling Young Woman, Do Not Compare Yourself To The Rest
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To The Struggling Young Woman, Do Not Compare Yourself To The Rest

If you compare, it will only lead to despair.

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To The Struggling Young Woman, Do Not Compare Yourself To The Rest
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It seems as if all of my friends are living their lives at a faster pace than I am. They’re renting apartments, getting married, and some are even having kids. Here I am, living with my parents, still in school, and working a part-time job.

I struggled with sitting on the sidelines, living vicariously through others and their endeavors. It seemed as if their lives were great, and were becoming someone bigger, fitting in with the “adult” life. It was hard for awhile, not being about to fit in or relate to them and what they were doing.

They always seemed to have problems with finding the right place to live, saving up for a few months rent, or even planning on what color scheme they wanted to have in the living room.

I wanted so badly to be in their shoes, but I realized that my life is great.

Even though I know I’m young, it still feels as if I’m not progressing at the same rate as those who I went to high school with. It took me a while, and some soul-searching to realize that I’m exactly where I need to be.

This isn’t supposed to be me, whining and complaining that I have an easy life - it’s supposed to be a message for those who seemed to be stuck like I was. I want them to know it’s okay to wait and pursue different things.

There is no need to rush anything in your life because good things will come to you when you need it most.

You just need to have faith in yourself and those who surround you, because even though you're wishing you were them, I can guarantee that they wish they could have a life like yours.

The biggest thing you need to take away from this is to focus on yourself. Comparing yourself to others is silly, especially when you're in the toughest and most complicated part of your life.

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