5 Things To Do Instead Of Comparing Your Summer To Everyone Else's

5 Things To Do Instead Of Comparing Your Summer To Everyone Else's

The Snapchat FOMO is real, but unproductive.

It's summer and colleges are mostly empty, your friend group is spread out across the state and you're watching 10-second clips of your friends lives from over 200 miles away. As the summer dips into the slump just before school, you may find yourself dipping into judging your own summer against the summer you think all of your college friends are having. Here are five things you should do instead of comparing your summer to your friends' who are spread out apart from you.

1. Organize a get together

Invite your friends from school, invite your friends from home, put out some board games, play some corn hole and start a bonfire. Have some fun regardless of who can or can't come.

2. Stop watching Netflix and read the book on your shelf

Yes, Friends is great and so are all the other sitcoms and documentaries at your fingertips, but it's a day to take a break. Reading is the original TV anyway, right? Let the story play out in your head and hone your skills for when you're back at the books soon. If the book had feelings it would be tired of waiting for you.

3. Take a day trip on your own

Go check out the bookstore you always drive by but never actually stop in. Take a trip on a hiking trail. Order yourself a big meal and eat by yourself. It might be easy to feel awkward about it, but you don't always need someone trailing after you.

4. Make that money

Sure, summer is a time for fun and friends, but it's also time for earning cash that you can spend at school. Work might be a drag, or maybe you love the internship you landed this summer, either way make sure that you put on a smile when a customer asks if you can do something with them. Make that money so you can ball out with your college friends when you're back together.

5. Hang out with your family

Your friends are great and of course you miss them, but your family is around now and soon you'll be off to school and they'll be hours away. It'll be them you're trying to stop missing in a month or two, so start saving up all the time you can with them.

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The Importance And Impact Of A Call Verus A Text

Ring in the new year.

New year, new me. We say it every iteration of annual "reset", either publicly, plastered over social media for all the world to see, or under our breath, with some type of discreet, more subtle determination. As exuberant or stolid as our intentions may first be, resolutions too oft fade into goals we set aside for another week, another month, another year.

The previous year, 2017, was not an unkind one but did teach me more than I had bargained for upon the Autumn months' arrival. This knowledge, undesired yet greatly appreciated just the same, has provided for me a prospect for 2018, a hope surpassing expectation, drawing nearer to necessity.

See, change can be a good thing. The best change, as I have learned, however, comes from within.

I promise this article is not some yogi mumbo jumbo--not to say I am not a fan of such wordage--but instead a call to action... a call to... well, call. If you're like me, or pretty much anyone else with a smartphone, you're practically glued to a screen from the time you wake up until you play chicken with it, seeing if your eyes shut before its screen goes black.

Texting certainly has its advantages. I mean, there's poop emojis. How else am I going to disapprovingly provide non-verbal commentary on my friend's attempt at humor? Fecal matter with eyes aside, texting rose in popularity because of its convenience--and also for the lack of human interaction.

That being said, what I am about to say might blow your mind. I'll wait while you grab some napkins.

Ready?

Good.

Close your messenger app. Click that little button with a picture of a phone on it--google older models of phones if no familiar image is present--and give someone a call. It may seem like a hassle; it may take up a bit more of your time than a text would, but I promise it will be worth it.

A simple phone call can brighten someone's day. Is it your father's birthday? Call him. Have a friend going through a rough breakup? Call her. Do you know your grandparent is sitting all alone watching the same Bonanza rerun they've seen at least thirteen times now? You get the picture.

It's personable, it's intimate, it's PhoneCall. Still working on the copyright for that.

Really, though. For me, this year is going to focus on communications and connections, reaching out to people in my life and letting them know how important they are to me. I want to be present, but when I can't, I want to be able to say I've put in plenty of effort into an interaction.

I used to hate calling and saying goodnight. I was lazy. That's the truth whether I like it or not. Sometimes it takes a wake-up in the form of a breakup to realize the importance that simple action holds. Sure, a text with a smiley face or a heart emoji is all well and good, but nothing compares to hearing the sincerity in a partner or family member's voice.

The other great thing about talking to someone on the phone is that you receive an answer to a question immediately. Texting? Not so much. People work or have busy lives that don't revolve around the device in their pocket. They might not have time enough to respond until later. Sometimes it takes a ringing phone to recognize how time-sensitive certain communications may be.

Maybe you're already the type of person to pick up the phone and dial instead of hammering away at those tiny, fingerprint-smeared keys. I know I'm not. But I could be. And so could you.

Whether it's making your life a little easier and knowing what your roommate wants on his pizza before you reach the counter or simply making someone's day, a phone call is a valuable thing and it's about time we returned to the year 2000 and remembered that.

Maybe you're at college, hundreds of miles away from your parents. Be like E.T. and phone home.

OK, I'm out of dad jokes. Cheers and have a great 2018!

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10 Messages Sent In Your "Home Friend" Group Chat When You're All Away At College

God forbid anyone has an Android.

Going to college without your friends from home can be really tough. But, living in the digital age has made that so much easier. Here are ten things you say to your besties at other schools!

1. "Okay but that girl that you just posted with, she's not replacing us right? Like she's just temporary?"

When you see that your best friends have found new companions to laugh with and take stupid Snapchats of, obviously it sends a small plunge through your heart. But, of course, you have to be happy for them because as their friend, you still have to be supportive of the fact that they're not sulking inside their dorm room for the next four years.

2. "Wait, I need to send you guys screenshot. "

Since they're not there to witness everything in person, you need to keep them updated.

**Patiently waiting for your friends' reactions to what they think will meet your expectations for how they should respond to something that really doesn't affect them in any way whatsoever. But since they're your friends, they'll act just as outraged as you are.**

3. "I'm looking through my videos from summer and I'm crying."

This speaks for itself. When your best friends go to schools that are spread across the country (or the world if you have a friend that went abroad), the chances of visiting each other during the year are slim to none. So, you often resort to watching videos from Thanksgiving break, winter break, and summer to remind you of just how dope your friend group is.

4. "I'm in a pissy mood right now and I really need someone to call me on my walk back from class, thanks."

Yeah, I'm that girl who Facetimes her friends walking to and from class without headphones on. And yes, I have used up all of my data doing so.

5. "Wait haha did you see what ________ posted?"

What's a group chat if you're not being petty about the people you all collectively disliked back in high school? It just gets a whole lot harder when you go to college and you can no longer keep tabs on the people your friends have issues with.

6. "Anyone up?"

It's a tough time when your roommate is asleep and it's 3 AM and all you want to do is have a deep talk about life with someone. That's when you send a message in the home group chat, and since you are all in different time zones, the odds of someone responding are high. Bonus points if multiple people are awake and you all flood the group chat with early morning nonsense and thoughts from teenage insomniacs.

7. "I'm having a full-blown mental breakdown and someone needs to respond right now before I make a scene."

Sometimes when you're away at college all you need is your home friends to explain to you that you are a completely irrational human being who needs to take a chill pill. Or is that one just me?

8. "HAHA I'M DEAD."

When there's some funny sh*t going on in the group chat but your friends aren't there in person to witness just how much your actually "loling" and the "HA HA" reaction is not enough so you just have to let them know that you're deceased.

9. "I MISS YOU GUYSSSS"

This one also speaks for itself. They're your best friends, so you miss them. But you can't physically be with them because for some reason college exists and it's meant to tear apart friend groups and force them to survive as individuals from miles away, dispersed throughout the country.

10. "Countdown for when we reunite starts now"

When it's all said and done, it's probably for the better that you're going out there and gaining some independence at college. It genuinely sucks that this has to be done at the cost of only communicating with your friend group by virtual means, but that's what makes the times when you are all back home and in the same place again, that much more special.

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