5 Things To Do Instead Of Comparing Your Summer To Everyone Else's

5 Things To Do Instead Of Comparing Your Summer To Everyone Else's

The Snapchat FOMO is real, but unproductive.

It's summer and colleges are mostly empty, your friend group is spread out across the state and you're watching 10-second clips of your friends lives from over 200 miles away. As the summer dips into the slump just before school, you may find yourself dipping into judging your own summer against the summer you think all of your college friends are having. Here are five things you should do instead of comparing your summer to your friends' who are spread out apart from you.

1. Organize a get together

Invite your friends from school, invite your friends from home, put out some board games, play some corn hole and start a bonfire. Have some fun regardless of who can or can't come.

2. Stop watching Netflix and read the book on your shelf

Yes, Friends is great and so are all the other sitcoms and documentaries at your fingertips, but it's a day to take a break. Reading is the original TV anyway, right? Let the story play out in your head and hone your skills for when you're back at the books soon. If the book had feelings it would be tired of waiting for you.

3. Take a day trip on your own

Go check out the bookstore you always drive by but never actually stop in. Take a trip on a hiking trail. Order yourself a big meal and eat by yourself. It might be easy to feel awkward about it, but you don't always need someone trailing after you.

4. Make that money

Sure, summer is a time for fun and friends, but it's also time for earning cash that you can spend at school. Work might be a drag, or maybe you love the internship you landed this summer, either way make sure that you put on a smile when a customer asks if you can do something with them. Make that money so you can ball out with your college friends when you're back together.

5. Hang out with your family

Your friends are great and of course you miss them, but your family is around now and soon you'll be off to school and they'll be hours away. It'll be them you're trying to stop missing in a month or two, so start saving up all the time you can with them.

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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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How Starting Your Journey Is Half Of The Battle

"You can start your journey any day at anytime."


Not that long ago, I wrote an article about a little phrase I heard on my friend's snapchat story. It got a tone of views and a lot of great feedback. And just in time for the beginning of the new school semester, he said something else that just kind of stuck with me.

He said that you can start your journey any day, at any time.

Okay so we've all heard this before but have any of us actually taken the time to put that saying into action? Well, quite recently I have. I used to be the type of person who waited until last minute to do everything, whether it was homework, a workout plan or whatever I wanted to accomplish. I used to be the type of person who said that at whatever time I'll start my homework and if it was a minute past that time I would have to wait to the start of the new hour....yes like the meme.

But now, ever since I heard that quote, it's been replaying in my head on a loop. Which is why I now just do things at the moment they're thought of and not a certain time. I decided that this is the semester, I don't wait until the last minute to do all of my work, and so far it's going well. I decided that this is the perfect time to get in shape, and not wait until the New Year, because I'm the skinniest most out of shape person that I know. I decided that instead of waiting until the new year to eat healthier that I'm going to do it now.

For a while I have wanted to get back into dance. I kept saying that I'll sign up for classes again when I finish school. But instead I decided to do it now, registered for a ballet class at school and signed up for ballroom dance, and it hands down has been one of the best decisions I have made.

Honestly it's been weird not having a set start date and time for certain things, but why would I put off doing something that I want to do? What I will say though, is that not procrastinating on homework has made these first couple of weeks of the semester fly by and seem like a breeze.

Just by letting go of the idea that every thing needs to have a set start date and time and a set date and time to end has made the pressure of things go away. By just starting my journey for whatever I'm doing right now, has increased my happiness and my overall productivity of what I'm doing.

So a little word of advice just go for and just do whatever you want to do right now.

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