5 Things To Do Instead Of Comparing Your Summer To Everyone Else's

5 Things To Do Instead Of Comparing Your Summer To Everyone Else's

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It's summer and colleges are mostly empty, your friend group is spread out across the state and you're watching 10-second clips of your friends lives from over 200 miles away. As the summer dips into the slump just before school, you may find yourself dipping into judging your own summer against the summer you think all of your college friends are having. Here are five things you should do instead of comparing your summer to your friends' who are spread out apart from you.

1. Organize a get together

Invite your friends from school, invite your friends from home, put out some board games, play some corn hole and start a bonfire. Have some fun regardless of who can or can't come.

2. Stop watching Netflix and read the book on your shelf

Yes, Friends is great and so are all the other sitcoms and documentaries at your fingertips, but it's a day to take a break. Reading is the original TV anyway, right? Let the story play out in your head and hone your skills for when you're back at the books soon. If the book had feelings it would be tired of waiting for you.

3. Take a day trip on your own

Go check out the bookstore you always drive by but never actually stop in. Take a trip on a hiking trail. Order yourself a big meal and eat by yourself. It might be easy to feel awkward about it, but you don't always need someone trailing after you.

4. Make that money

Sure, summer is a time for fun and friends, but it's also time for earning cash that you can spend at school. Work might be a drag, or maybe you love the internship you landed this summer, either way make sure that you put on a smile when a customer asks if you can do something with them. Make that money so you can ball out with your college friends when you're back together.

5. Hang out with your family

Your friends are great and of course you miss them, but your family is around now and soon you'll be off to school and they'll be hours away. It'll be them you're trying to stop missing in a month or two, so start saving up all the time you can with them.

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Dear best friend,

I wasn't expecting you when God placed you in my life. I had my friends. I had my people. I wasn't exactly open to the idea of new meaningful friendships because I had the ones I needed, and it didn't seem like I really needed anybody new.

Thank God that was false. Sometimes you meet people and you just know that you're going to be good friends with. Sometimes you meet people and you realize that there is no such thing as chance. I think God has a funny way of making it seem as if the things that happen to us are by chance, but honestly, that’s a load of crap. If the biggest moments of our lives were left up to chance, then I believe that would make God out to seem as if he didn’t care. It would make it seem as if He was truly abandoning me and making me face some of my most important seasons fully isolated. But you, best friend, are a true testament to the fact that God doesn’t just leave such important aspects up to chance. Thank you for taking a chance on our friendship, and thank you for allowing me to take a chance on what I didn’t realize would be the most impactful friendship in my entire life.

Thank you for being real with me. Thank you for not sugar coating things. Thank you for telling me when I have a bad attitude. Thank you for loving me through my mistakes. Thank you for supporting me in my decisions, even if it isn’t always the decision you would make. Thank you for wanting the best for me, and for making that your true intent behind the words that you say to me, whether they be constructive criticism or encouragement.

Thank you for being a goof with me. Thank you for putting me first. Thank you for seeing the importance of our friendship. Thank you for making time in your schedule for us to just sit and do homework, eat Mexican food, or sit on the porch and listen to music that emotionally wrecks you.

You’re one of a kind. You’re a shoulder to lean on. You’re a safe place. You’re a free spirit. You’re rough and tough, but your heart melts for the people you love and it’s obvious. You’re more than meets the eye. You are worth getting to know. You are worth loving. You pursue people. You are passionate about your future. You are everything that a person needs, and I really thank God that for some reason you continue to choose to be in my life. Thank you for literally dragging me up my mountains of fear when I want to stay exactly where I am at and wallow in the sadness. You bring joy—true joy—wherever you go. You are my best friend, confidant, and biggest fan. You will be the Maid of Honor, Godmother, and fun Aunt.

I used to think lifelong friendships weren’t really a thing. It just seemed like people always grew apart and forever was never a point that was attainable. Best friends forever is a cliché phrase that is continuously overused nowadays (sometimes, I even used to make light of it), but thanks for making that a reality. You are truly the best friend I could have asked for. So thank you for it all. You make life more fun, and I couldn’t thank God more for making an incredible human, friends with me.

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"I'm actually really glad my boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship right now. I'm not sure if we would still be together if we lived in the same city."

When I say that, whether it's to adults or fellow college students, the person always looks totally shocked. Their jaw drops, and I can basically see their thoughts racing. They jump to conclusions and assume that we have a bad relationship, don't really love each other, or are cheating while away at school. But honestly, none of those things are happening. I love my boyfriend immensely, and I miss him every single day we're apart. While I know that's true, it doesn't mean that I don't also know that being in a long distance relationship is actually a really good thing for us right now.

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