I Know, I Know, 'Communication Is Everything' Is A Cliché, But There's A Reason For That

I Know, I Know, 'Communication Is Everything' Is A Cliché, But There's A Reason For That

Your partner cannot read your mind or guess how you are feeling.

One of the most important things in a relationship is communication. However, it is one of the things that people struggle with because they feel like keeping things to themselves or between them and their friends is better than addressing their issues with their partner head on. I, for one, am a huge advocate for having open conversations about anything and everything with your partner. Why? Because it allows you guys to address things head on and not let things fester.

Working on your relationship is like building a house - you have to make sure you create a strong foundation before moving on to the other floors. Thus, learning how to be open with your partner and honest is what will allow your relationship to be successful in the future.

From my experience, you have to establish your intentions for the relationship, to begin with. If both of you are committed to each other, having that open flow of communication is a little easier because you know that you both have the intention of wanting to make the relationship work. However, if you both are not completely serious about your relationship, then having that open communication isn’t as important because neither of you necessarily want to put in that much effort into each other.

Once your relationship status is established, starting the relationship with the understanding that both of you respect each other’s opinion and are willing to listen to each other is key. Even if you don’t do this right at the beginning of the relationship, reinforcing that you guys have trust and understanding allows for this open communication to flourish.

Now, let’s say you are reading this and you are thinking to yourself that you don’t have trust in your relationship or that you guys seem to have a lot of differences and fights. That is all normal and not something to beat yourself up about. In that case, I think the best thing to do is to try to reconnect with your partner on a more emotional level. Go back to what made you want to be with them in the first place - creating a more loving and peaceful environment will allow you to not only address the concerns you have within your relationship but also increase overall communication between you guys.

Overall, your partner cannot read your mind or guess how you are feeling.

The only way for them to know what you are going through is if you tell them; and not with passive aggressive texts, but with open and honest dialogue in a nonjudgmental environment. There are definitely steps you need to take in order to get to a place in your relationship where this is something that comes easily, however, those steps take time to achieve. It is not impossible so don’t give up lovebirds!

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To The Boy Who Made Me Love Again

Thank you for loving me and showing me how to love myself.


To the boy who made me love again:

From the very beginning of our relationship, you showed me you were different. You showed me how I should be treated.

After dating someone for three years, falling in love was the last thing I wanted to do again. I did not want to grow close to anyone and fall in love with every little aspect of someone, but with you, it was so much different. You were different from other guys I had talked to. You have done small things for me that make me so happy. From offering to order me pizzas while I'm working to ordering me a key chain that says "drive safe," it's the little things you've done to make me love you.

During my previous relationship, I had come to a custom of pulling out my card to pay for dates and thought it was okay to accept the fact that good morning text did not exist. Every morning since we started dating, you never forget to text me good morning. We almost fight over who is going to pay, because I can't expect you to pay for every date. You have shown me what to expect in a relationship.

You never fail to make me happy. Whenever I say I'm hungry, you get me Mexican. When I want to watch Netflix, you immediately put on The Office. I can mention one thing I want and you buy it because you know it will make me happy. You give me forehead kisses and it puts a smile on my face. Whenever I am upset, you won't get off the phone until you figure out what is wrong and make sure everything is okay.

You make me feel beautiful. I can come over in leggings and socks and Birkenstocks or I can come over in a nice shirt and booties, but either way, you tell me I'm beautiful. Whenever I just wake up and look a hot mess, you look me in my eyes and tell me I'm beautiful.

You always tell me to be careful whenever I'm driving and you make sure to tell me you love me every night before you go to bed. You remind me of things I know I'll forget and you literally read my mind. You motivate me with my schooling and tell me how proud you are of me when I make a good grade.

I never wanted to date again and I especially did not want to fall in love; however, you are everything I dreamed of wanting. I am so blessed to have met you and fallen in love with you. So to the boy who made me want to love again, I love you and thank you for everything.

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36 Hobbies To Take Up If You Want To Be The Next Best 20-Something Grandma

Pursuing something with needle and thread is a good start


Need a new hobby? Want to emulate a grandmother? Here are some great ideas for fun things to do in your spare time to get you ready to be the best grandma in 40-50 years!

1. Knitting

2. Baking

This hobby will also come with many friends wanting to try your creations.

3. Crocheting

4. Sudoku 

You gotta keep the mind healthy.

5. Crosswords

6. Cooking

7. Thrifting

Goodwill is your go-to for fabulous finds that won't break the bank.

8. Join a book club

Whether or not you actually read the book, either way it's a good way to socialize.

9. Yard Sale-ing

Don't tell me you didn't go yard sale-ing with your grandma at least once in your childhood.

10. Napping

11. Brunching

Food and friends (and a mimosa)... what's not to love about this hobby?

12. Spades

13. Hearts

14. Gardening

Figure out if you have a green thumb earlier rather than later.

15. Sewing

Being able to fix (or even make) your own clothes seems like both a creative outlet and a practical skill.

16. Antiquing

17. Cross-Stitching

Make some wall decorations for your room!

18. Power-walking

Why normal walk when you could speed walk?

19. Reading at 64-font on your Kindle

20. Read the newspaper

There's just something peaceful and nostalgic about reading a physical newspaper...

21. Collecting

Coins, dolls, you name it.... someone probably collects it.

22. Quilting

23. Rummy

24. Giving wise advice to those younger than you

25. Get a magazine subscription

26. Write hand-written letters to friends

It's fun and there is something so meaningful about taking the time to write it out and mail it.

27. Bridge

28. Curate a bomb matching pajama collection

29. Scrapbooking

Take your memories and add a creative touch... you won't regret it.

30. Tai Chi

I'm not a regular grandma, I'm a cool grandma...

31. Flower-arranging

32. Photography

Capture the moments of the loved ones around you!

33. Plan girls' trips with friends

34. Volunteer

Find time to give back to causes that you are passionate about!

35. Watch game shows

36. Watch soap operas

All the plot points and characters may be cringy, but they are so addicting!

Consider some of these hobbies if you find yourself looking for something to fill your time. When grandma-hood comes around, you'll be ready for it. And if you already do a lot of these things, well then we might as well go ahead and affectionately call you a 20-something grandma!

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