Lift that jaw back up from the floor because yes, I am finally comfortable with being single. For the longest time, I would envy my close friends and their steady ass relationships. They had found their dream guys. How could I not be?

Lately, my dating life has been nothing but dull. By dull, I mean basically nonexistent. Of course, there’s the occasional fling, but nothing to where I would feel comfortable enough in taking the next step. I’ll admit it. I am very picky when it comes to choosing the guys I talk to, so I have a disadvantage there. But, you can’t blame a girl for wanting some abs and a cute face to look at…

So yes, I have standards. But, everyone does and there’s nothing wrong with that.

However, being single has made me love being single.

Yes, I see my best friends all happy and in love, but I’ve learned that it’s not always rainbows and butterflies. I see the struggle of having to deal with long distance, mixed emotions, arguments over the phone, etc. That’s when I tell myself, “I already argue with my mom over the phone. I don’t need another person to argue with.” Then I feel 100 times better.

In all seriousness, as much as I would love a relationship, relationships seem like they can disconnect you from the person who matters the most – yourself.

I used to be the girl that would put in all of the effort to make someone else happy. Nothing else mattered to me. But, I never stopped to take a second to see if I was truly happy.

After being single for so long, I can say I am happier today than I was two years ago when I was in my first relationship. I have my relationship status, single and satisfied, to thank for that.

Being single has helped me come to learn who I truly am. I am so in touch with my thoughts, emotions, everything. I don’t have anyone to answer to, AND I get the whole bed to myself.

I live for myself.

I have become so used to being single that even when I try to imagine myself in a relationship, it just doesn’t seem like the right fit at this point in my life. I am a strong believer that there is someone out there for everyone, but maybe that someone is myself at least for right now.

Until I find the guy I am supposed to be with, I’ll just be over here continuing to learn how to love myself and respect myself. Never settle for less than what you deserve just for the fear of being single.

Single doesn’t mean have to mean lonely.

Single is sexy, and if that’s the case then I always want to be single.

Here’s to those that are having a hard time accepting a change in their relationship statuses. Don’t worry. Everything will be okay and being single does NOT mean the end of the world. The world is yours and all yours. Take this opportunity and give single a whole new meaning by paying attention to what matters the most – you.